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im pregnant and im only 14 |
| im only 14 im scared what shpuld i expect?
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baby_mama_4446
1/9/2007 |
| im 18 going on 19 but i still know how you feel. is the babys daddy staying with you, do you have help from family? how far along are you. im going to have my baby in 3 months so hopefully if i have time i can tell you how labor went for me. but for now dont get to stressed out or scared because it will make the pregnancy worse. they really isnt anything you can do now. im hopeing that you will keep the baby. and just enjoy the kicking and knowing that you are a parent now. now you have someone you can tell what to do. haha. it will be hard but there are girls in the world that do it everyday. and i know you can do it. you will learn as you go through this crazy time.. : )
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kaylababy07
1/12/2007 |
| Hi...I had my first child at 16 and it was difficult...I managed to stay in school and graduate w/ honors and scholarships; however, I had to depend on many family members to help. My boyfriend at the time was "in the streets" and it was very difficult to keep focus. Currently, I am 29yrs old, my 3 children are thriving and are very well cared for. My strongest advice to you...and I don't know what faith (if any) that you belong to...however, if there is a higher power that you believe in, hold onto that. Find someone in your family that is older....maybe a grandmother or greatgrandmother that can be very supportive of you. I am a mentor for young teenaged mothers and would be glad to be some sort of support system for you. Your life will drastically change with the new baby, but remember its never the end of the road and life IS what you make of it. Feel free to email me...whenever for whatever reason. If I can be a resource to you...I'll will be that. I mean that in all sincerity. Best Wishes.....
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roband2000
1/24/2007 |
| hey i was jsut wondering how you are doing
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kaylababy07
1/25/2007 |
| hey dont worry i am only 14 too!!! But i got family supporting me on this, so hopefully you do. If you do it will make things a lot better. I dont know about you, but i stressed for the first couple weeks, but dont strsss
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littlemomma
2/26/2007 |
| You are too young to be having a child. The fact of the matter is that this is going to be an embarassing situation and everywhere you go no one is going to have respect for you. Your poor child will face the wrath of the other kids making fun of him/her in school. If you have any sense at all you will give that child a chance in life and put it up for adoption. Girls like you really make me angry, what right do you have to go getting pregnant at your age...it will be a miracle if your child ever amounts to anything being raised by one so immature. 16 years from now when you are a grown woman you will see your mistake, right now with the clouded thinking of a child (which is what you are) you cannot make any rational choices. That so-called father will not change his lifestyle, you will not end up with him and you will be alone, probably with no child-support because you girls never seek it. You need to sit down with a professional cousellor and really put yourself in the place of your child. Can you afford to give your child music lessons, tutoring, dance classes, vacations. These are important and expensive experiences that all children need and deserve. Love is all fine and dandy but it will not enrich your child's thinking...can you provide all that a child should have and if you can't find someone who can.
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Mrs. P
3/14/2007 |
| I hope you don't listen to Mrs. P or whatever her screen name is.. Yes your young but this will be something you will learn from..You must be strong for yourself and your child..Things happen I was 20 when I had my first child not as young as you but I know what its like to be scared just remember to do everything you can to get that education,be a good parent, and know that people will respect you if you respect yourself. I hope you keep this baby.my friend was 15 when she had her daughter and it was hard but she found ways to do what she had to do.. your 14 and your gonna be a mommy the greatest gift in the world so take good care of it and always hold it close don't let people like Mrs.p put you down keep your head up girl..things always happen for a reason:)
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cashjcubb
3/16/2007 |
| by the way I'm having my 3rd child and I'm only 26 lucky for me I'm married now to their father and we're all doing well..but guess what mrs.p I still can't afford dance lessons or music classes...but I can afford the best thing ever a safe place for them to grow up in, and lots of love ....LOVE is better than any cash you throw at me...
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cashjcubb
3/16/2007 |
| Hi sweetheart, does your parents know? I know you must be scared. I didn't have my first until I was much older and I was scared. You will get through it though. The best thing may be to go to the library or a reputable pregnancy website, if you're not comfortable talking to your parents. There is lots of great info out there. But just remember , nothing is by the book. And don't listen to snooty old Mrs. P. You need to make a decision because it's what you want, or you'll regret it your entire life. Don't listen to other people , listen to your heart. good luck
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Steph D
3/20/2007 |
| hey u no wot if u have somewhere stable and secure to live and some support then u should be just fine!!!wether ur 14 or 22 like me anybody can love a child!! they dont need expensive holidays and all these private lesson thingys they are just a luxury in life for those who can afford it!!!im 22 i have a little girl who will be 2 in may an a baby due in september ive been with my partner 8 yrs and we have our own house but that doesnt make me any differant to u.get some help an advice but all im saying is that it doesnt mean that somebody with no money or somebody with thousands in thier bank will love a child any differant
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loz
3/26/2007 |
| I am scared and also that i told my boyfriend and he already has another girlfriend and i have lots of support from my friedns but i havent told my parents yet how do i tell them ??
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my-lil-baby
4/12/2007 |
| You know what don't listen to ms.p she is a for saying those words to you i was 14 when i got pregnant now that I am 18 with a high school diploma, and is in college to be a medical assistant and my child is the smartest child you will ever meet you know what you just have to put your mind to it and don't never give up and just believe in yourself you will be alright. Some people will make you fell down at time but you have to look over them, for real sweet heart. And finish school always think positive and not negative and you will go a long way. And make sure you take good care of your child and just show your baby lots of love. Cause your a mommy now and thats something god wanted you to experience cause if not he wouldn't have gave you that baby everything happens for a reason remember that and you will get far. Ignore the negative.
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Ms.Gerecal
4/12/2007 |
| Unfortunately, Mrs. P hit the nail on the head. Not what everyone wants to hear, but sometimes, people need a reality check! Step back and think about it - a 14 year old with a baby. She will have to buy diapers, formula if she isn't breastfeeding, clothes - which they outgrow VERY often, and that is just the beginning. Of course, it would help if her family is there to support her, but, don't forget - they have their own lives. They would end up being responsible for buying a crib, stroller, carseat - and the girl can't even drive, so they would have to take time off of work for dr. visits, checkups - anything that the baby will need, the mom will be at the mercy of someone else, for years to come! While I am sure the baby will be loved, it will be a huge burden on EVERYONE involved. It isn't a decision that she needs to make lightly - her entire family and support system needs to seriously think about what will be asked of them in the future years. I am STRONGLY against abortion, but there are thousands of couples in this country that are READY and waiting for a child to adopt and love. The 14 year old needs to step back and look at her situation - no proms, homecoming, football games on Friday nights. Her dating life will be SERIOUSLY strained. Most of her friends won't be able to identify with issues that now face her, they will be worried about what new shoes to buy themselves, not their babies! How is she supposed to study for exams (assuming she stays in school) with a crying newborn who wakes her up for a feeding every few hours?
I just don't understand why all of the replies here are encouraging her to keep the baby and do her best - all the while relying on OTHER people to pick up the slack for her. She'll likely be at or below poverty level, getting food stamps and a welfare check. What they should be telling her is to give the baby to a loving home, a place where he/she will be well cared for, and LEARN from this - there are plenty of birth control methods available, and believe it or not - ABSTINENCE IS AN OPTION - EVERY TIME!
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mom of 2
4/13/2007 |
| Hey i'm only 17 and pregnant and no one knows but me and the dad and a select few friends cause im scared. But i think if you want your baby and you have the support of your family you can do this. Not all children need tutoring and not all want dance. lol. But you need to make sure you do have to financal help of family mambers cause baby food is EXPENSIVE and the things they need can become relaly expensive but as long as you can provide that then have the baby if you wish. I'm having mine and ignoring some of my closest friends who told me its a big mistake nad i shouoldn't go through with it! I accidently got pregnant and i was on birth control but im willing to deal with it and adjust my life to the needs of a child. I dont have it in my heart to get rid of the baby and i oculdn't live with myself knowing i have a child somewhere in this world and not being able eto see it grow up. If you really have to help and support you deserve don't listen to anyone and follow what you believe is right thats what i did and now i have to tell my doctor on monday that i'm possibly pregnant even though i know i am. I hope you make the right choice for you!
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babiisteps
4/13/2007 |
| Dont be scared i was 15 when i got pregnant and 16 when i had my daughter. Dont listen to any of these people telling u negative things my daughter was the best thing that ever happened to me and im 18 now and i did graduate i went to prom and yes i had to rely on other people for a while but not very long and if your family supports you they wont have any problem helping you out they will love the baby just as much as you. and for the ladies that think babies daddies dont stick around me and my babies daddy have been together 3 years and we got married march 3 of this year. there are some hard times when your a parent but as long as your love your baby and want to do whats right for him/her then youll be fine.
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hottmomma07
4/21/2007 |
| girl i am too i am scared but when i told my mom she was happy that i told her cause she didnt want me to be pregaunt and lose the baby she wanted to make sure the baby is okey and allwrite you should tell her and it is gone be rought you just have to take it dat by day
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lamia
4/25/2007 |
| Great job Mrs. P!!!!! Well said. I wish more people out there that believe this would be brave enough to voice their opinion. I'm tired of hearing people be supportive of others that have no right having children- at least not yet, they are still children themselves. Thanks for having the courage to express yourself!
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Jennabug
4/25/2007 |
| There was a girl from my mother's home school group who was 13 and about to have a baby. She was cared at first to tell her parents. And the parents of the baby's father. she fianly stud up and told her parents and told them she was keeping the baby.(with their help) Befor the baby was born. About 7 mounths in she with the help of her parents went to the house of the baby's father's parents house to tell them and him. He was 14 or 15 and he took it rather hard and didn't want to take any more part in it, told her to have an abortion. but his parents stud up and told them that thay would be willing to help with anything if not everything ever needed. And that thay wanted to be seen as grandparents to the baby. And thay stud by what thay said.
I wanted to let You know some times its really hard and soem times ppl don't want to help or even espet the fact. But even if thare not so helpful it is so much better to talk and ask for help.
Having birth, or even being preg does a tole on the body. but its so great to see the baby smile when the tiems comes.
I hope You are doing alright, and not to stressed out right now.
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Sushi
4/25/2007 |
| Any one who can become prenant should have the right to have the baby. And why would anyone think its wrong for a youing girl to keep the baby?! Or even have the baby to give out to somone who wants to adompt. how horrible to ever say other wise. ..its brakes my heart to see such a thing happen. Sure it will be hard and a young girl will need help taking care of the baby. and sure she may have been in the wrong to even get preg, but in no way is she wrong to want to keep a baby.(or even have the baby to give out in adoption.)
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Sushi
4/25/2007 |
| hey girl,how you doing i know that it may be scary and stressful but you know its a gift and that ms.p lady saying that your to young and that everyone going to say stuff and stare.she's crazy im 15 about to turn 16 i've been with my man for a year and 3 months hes happy everyones happy for me and him.I have not been stared at or talked about and to tell you the truth i dont care my aunt says its a gift from god although she wants to see a wedding ring but hes fine with that.i live with him it is stressful cause his annoying sister bout yeah his other sister is very nice and his mom is really nice.so dont listen to her or anybody cause god knew exactly when your were going to have a baby.just like me im happy and dont care.although we need to eat more and healthier foods cause were so small.if you need any help or anything what so ever i'll be happy to help and answer your ?'s i know everything i read and look up stuff like crazy.is your parents okay and is the father okay or does he know?well congradulations to you.i hope you keep it.it will be fine trust me.good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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youngbaby16
4/26/2007 |
| im 14 and pregnant also,im due in august and ive never been more scared in my whole life!..and MRS P!!..can think what she wants she doesnt have a clue what we are feeling right now we dont need her tellin us that we will be embarrered and everything!!..wer just the same as everyone else accept we are jst a bit younger!..i dont relly care what she thinks of me anyways..i kno im gonna be just fine!..ive got my boyfriend,my mum,my dad,my gran and grandad,aunties and also my brother mum!..i kno its gonna be hard but i got myself into this and im gonna handle it just fine!..i know its goin to be hard but you always get buy!...im only scared bout the labour!..im not verry good at handling pain but i will go threw anything just to hold my beautiful babyboy in my arms!
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soon to be mum
4/27/2007 |
| I don't think the comments such as Mrs. P's were handled well at all... although I do think the topic is important. I am definitely saddened to hear that many of you are going through pregnancies at such a young age. Honestly, you really are still children at age 14. You should be able to enjoy your carefree teenage years (although I definitely think abstinence is extremely important). I really don't think that motherhood is something a 14-year-old needs to be embarking upon. At age 33, motherhood is still very difficult! It's a wonderful amazing gift... but it is much better when experienced at a later age. And I'm sure it is better for the child as well, when you are better able to provide for him or her emotionally and financially. I am very much against abortion and I applaud all of you for not taking that route!! That is very brave. Thank you for thinking of the children. But I also approach this from another perspective... I am very happily married and have been unable to get pregnant. We adopted our son a couple years ago and he is an indescribable gift!!!! Adoption is a HUGE blessing and is soooo not 2nd best. I couldn't love my son more if I had given birth to him myself. We are now working on a 2nd adoption & exploring options. It is so difficult to adopt and we are really struggling! We just want a child to love and raise. I can guarantee you that there are MANY wonderful couples out there who would love to raise your baby and would provide him or her with wonderful homes. Please pray about this and consider it. I really do believe that it is in your child's best interest and your own! Although you may be able to make this work, it will be very difficult & life will never be the same. I promise you that there is no lack of love out there for your precious baby! God bless you & good luck to you in the big decisions ahead.
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adopting
4/27/2007 |
| Well to make sure You eat bettr foods and more of it go to WIC thay should be able to help alot. Im going for the first time on friday so im hoping its going to do a great deal with me.
Good luck Mammas!
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Sushi
5/1/2007 |
| Adopting ; Shes right. it is such a blessing to beable to adopt. And to be able to adopt out a baby to such caring parents. That should make it easyer on any mother who is not ready who has been wating to adopt their baby out. But for those who arn't ready to even think about it it wont be as comferting to them. .. So many young mothers will jump to adopt their children out as so many other mothers will cry even thinkin gabout it. When i was 15 i couldn't even think it would be best to adopt out my baby(tho i wasn't preg and thankful it turned out that i wasn't) it broke my heart when my ex told me thats what "we" woudl do. Its best to keep a great saport group together, family friends ppl out side of both together and just talk it out. GET all the help You can. ..its to hard to think of making a decision. =(
.. Im sorry if i said anything out of line befor, and ask for forgivness for that. I truly am sorry. Thank You Adopting for bringing that up.
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Sushi
5/1/2007 |
| listen hunni i was 13 wen i ah ma baby n i love it good luck
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mommy
5/25/2007 |
| HeY..well i feel your pain and worries because im 16 and pregnant and i didn't no what to do for a long time but i finally told my parents and they're willing to help me and if your baby daddy isn't goin to help you don't worry now but as soon as ur baby comes out you hit him up for child support just like im goin to do..
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lil_moma09
6/5/2007 |
| ive only got 9 weeks to go and because im only 14 im petrified about what might happen during my labour. do you think ill be safe?
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soon to be mum
6/6/2007 |
| You will be perfectly fine,dont worry at all.A friend of my kids just had her baby yesterday and shes 15 and she is fine and her baby is beautiful.
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mom123
9/6/2007 |
| Not always true,the decision to give up for adoption is also as important as abortion or to keep the baby,this is not something to be taken lightly,this is a decision that will affect you for the rest of your life.Do what you feel you can live with,not what others think you should do,this is your life and no-one elses.If you feel you can at all raise this baby,then you should.Good luck,you will be fine.
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mom123
9/6/2007 |
| Goodmorning, I can only imagine how you feel. I am 34 years old and due to illness had to have an emergency hystertomy when I was 30. I feel I missed the ball and now won't be able to have a little one. I pray that someone someday will be strong enough to share thier little one with us. Its not the end of the world if you become pregnat. If you decide to put your baby up for adoption that is such a noble thing to do. In my case I would be ever so thakful and praise your decision everyday for the rest of my life. My husband and I are excitedly waiting for God to bring us a baby. So don't be so scared of adoption there are really loving families out here that are going to take wonderful care of the baby that God lets them raise.
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JWishes
9/6/2007 |
| hey have u had your baby yet??
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loz
9/9/2007 |
| iam 14 and pregnant im soo scared but i have i question cause im only 14 will docs take the baby of me
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lil_b.b
9/23/2007 |
| no your kid will not get taken from you.but are your parents with you though?im 16 and pregnant and there not taking my kid away from me.i have my aunt whos my gaurdian and my boyfriends family with me,the only peaople that dont know about me being pregnant is my dad and mom.i never plan on telling them either.but no they wont take your kid away from you,only if they think your home isn't good or if your having problems.How many months are you,im almost done with mine next month and he'll be here in mine and his dads arms.hope everyhting goes well for you.
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reyna_baby07
10/6/2007 |
| Im pregnant and im only 13 years old wat do i do....?do i tell my mom or should i leave my house i mean i know who the father is n every thing but im scared to have a baby at an early age.....especially knowing how my family is...i dont know wat to do.....wat do i do.....
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mS.bEreNicE
10/10/2007 |
| Um - YES tell your parents. Tell them that you made a mistake, and decide with them what to do with your baby. My advice would be to give this child a fighting chance at a good life and give it up for adoption. There is no way in the world you will be able to give it the care that it needs. Of course your parents will be upset - mad, disappointed - expect it. They will help you through it, and do what is right.
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mom of 2
10/10/2007 |
| Please do not listen to Mrs. P. Vacations and music lessons are not the important expenses in a childs life. Shelter, food and love are what are most important. I do beleive that you are young and may have to struggle but who are we to say that you can not make it. If people knock you down why would you want to keep trying? I wish you the best of luck and when rude people say things like that to you tell them at least you wont have to walk around with a cane to play with your child and you can be there the day they graduate!! Best of luck.
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babymadison
10/11/2007 |
| Eyahh x
My name is jayden i am 14 years old and i am pregnant i dont know what to do all i know is that i am keeping the baby i am going to be fifteen when the baby is born please give me some advise on what to do x
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Jayden
10/14/2007 |
| I've thought about wat u said n nope i wont give muh baby for adoption i feel like dat is stupid when i wuz only 8 years old i took care of muh lil cuzins when they were barely 3 months old n a 1 years old baby when i wuz only 8 i think if i wud be a mom i wud be a good 1...2 n if u aint goin to give me good advice well i dont need it at all...thanks anyway..if any1 else agrees wit me let me kno...thanks
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mS.bEreNicE
10/22/2007 |
| well i think u shud tell ur baby daddy and talk it out wit them n then decide a way to tell ur mom wat u did....n tell her it wuz a mistake dats wat im going to do when im barely showing so they wont try to do anything stupid...dont listen to these other people who say to give ur baby up for adoption becuz it wont work trust me...u dont want to kill ur baby do u??
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mS.bEreNicE
10/22/2007 |
| I applaud you for not considering abortion - truly. However, have you thought about the burden that will be placed on your family? I'm sure they love you, and will love your baby as well - but THEY will be primarily responsible for your child. You aren't even old enough to get a job. Yes, you can get gov't assistance, but that won't be enough. Your family will have to take time off of work for EVERY dr. appt., both for you and your baby. They will have to buy the baby medicine, clothes, food. Think about all of the involved expenses - crib, diapers, stroller, carseat - that is a lot of money, especially for a 13/14 year old. It is a huge burden for a family not expecting it (which is another reason that you should tell them as SOON as possible). I posted a reply ^^ further up in this thread of everything in your life that will change. It is much different than just watching babies. YOU are responsible for every aspect of that child's life - everything.
And if you have posted here ONLY to hear people that agree with you, then you really aren't looking for advice - just people to pat you on the back and tell you that, at 13, you have made the right choice to get pregnant and decide to keep your child - adding more burden to the rest of taxpayers (through welfare programs - which you will know all too well soon). You are welcome
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mom of 2
10/24/2007 |
| ok well wat do u mean im too young to get a job becuz i already do have a job n i already been saveing up money in dis account muh mom has under her name but its mine....so i have money trhier n credit cards wit money under her name n muh baby daddy does 2 so i mean i know its a lot n i kno i messed up but i also dont kno wat to do cuz im confused i mean i have everything i want n look wat i did....but yea i noe im 13/14 years old but mistakes r mistakes n no 1 can changed dat n da baby doesnt have to take da fault i need advice to wat to tell muh mom becuz i will tell her but when tha time is right becuz muh family is crazy n yes they care about me but i dont need some1 like u telling me 2 have an abortion i need advice from other considerate people that know wat i am going threw......n wat r u talking bout i dont know how to take care of kids when i wuz barely 8 years old i waz takeing care of muh 2 cuzin dat were 1 yrs..old(tha gurl) n 3 months old (da boy)i know how it is to take care of kids.....but i also know i made the mistake but like i said i dont need BAD ADVICE I NEED GOOD ADVICE TAHNKS ANYWAYS
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mS.bEreNicE
10/24/2007 |
| I turnt 15 3 days ago and had a little boy at 1.46 2 days ago he is called kaden he is so cute and weighed 6 pounds 2 ounces thnx for all advice it has helped x
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Jayden
10/26/2007 |
| mS.bEreNicE - you should go back and reread what I wrote in my above posts.
First - I NEVER said to get an abortion - I said that I applaud you for NOT considering an abortion. That means that I wholeheartedly agree with your decision not to abort your baby. Second, it is good that you have a job - where I live, kids can't work until they are 14, and then the hours are limited. Do you intend to keep working after you have the baby? Will you have to pay for daycare or do you have someone to watch the baby? Third - I did NOT say you don't know how to take care of a baby. I said that it is much different being totally responsible for everything that happens than just watching/taking care of someone else's children. You will see that when your baby is here. You can disagree with my advice all that you want, but you will see once your baby is born. You will be woken up over and over again to feed him/her. If you breastfeed, plan on getting up every 2-3 hours for at least a month. Diaper changes, feedings, fussy crying - sometimes lasting for over an hour. It will wear on your nerves, and the baby is YOURS - nobody else but you is obligated to watch him/her so you can have a break. It's all up to you. I'm sorry that you think my advice is bad advice - but what part is bad? That you should give the baby to a family who is better able to give him/her a wonderful and happy life? That isn't bad advice, just advice that you don't agree with. There is a difference. My advice about telling your mom - do it as soon as possible. Was that the bad advice? Trust me, your mother will need time to get used to the fact that she is going to be a grandmother (about 10 years earlier than she planned on becoming one). It is better to tell her now instead of wait. Once she gets over the shock, she'll want to be included in the dr. visits, and see the baby on the ultrasound, hear the heartbeat... You need to tell her. Sooner rather than later.
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mom of 2
10/26/2007 |
| i was 12 when i first got pregnent and 13 when i had the baby.
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munnie
10/27/2007 |
| I know it must be hard for you I'm 16 and I'm pregnant but it was the other way around I told my mother but I'm scared to tell my boyfriend who is 18 I was scared to tell her but I had to do it soon or later if you going to keep the baby you have to tell your mother just sit down with her talk about something good then tell her your pregnant
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Charisma
11/1/2007 |
| well im only 14 years old and i am pregnant. im really worried right now i don't know wat to think?
but all i know is that im going to keep my baby and no one can tell me other wise.
im not sure if im going to have a girl or if im going to have a boy?
but it doesnt realy matter its up to "GOD" wat lil angle he wants to send me. i wish everybody with the best of luck to thier lil 1's and those who babies our on the way like meni!!!
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lil mami
11/5/2007 |
| I'm not trying to hide my Baby Father I want to tell himm but I don't know how
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Charisma
11/6/2007 |
| im only 15 and expecting a kid!!!
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new young mama
11/7/2007 |
| im 13 and two weeks ago i had sex for the first time.i know at this age a girl wouldnt really think about it.but i did and i knew what the consiquences were .and being and ediot i didnt use pertection.and he already know that theres a posiblility.and im not really worried about him because he said hed be there but he hasnt called but once in the past two weeks but even without him i can do it.i have two friends that support me and im keepin my baby no matter what.but my sister got pregnant at 14 and had her baby at 15 and my grandparents kicked her out so i know that im not going to be able to live with my family.but i dont know where i can go.and scince im so young will the docters take my baby away from me and lock my boyfriend up??and what if my parents dont want me to keep the baby can they make me give it up or get an abortion?o really want to keep my baby.and iv been around babys my whole life and i love them to death and they like me.i know what to do but im to young to get a job and im too young to live on my own.will they kick me out of school.please help me im so scared.and how do i tell my grandparents do i just say hey papa nanny im pregnant and dont worry i already have my bags packed.because i know they will kick me out i saw them do it to my sister and they still treat her like crap today they are always tell in her how she is a screw up and how she ruined her life and how she should of never had a baby.they treat her like she is just a peace of trash laying on th e ground im afriad the will treat even worse because im younger than she was and she only 18 now and shes married and has to work 24/7 to support her family.i dont know what to do plzz help meeeeeee!!!!
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beautiful101
11/11/2007 |
| my boyfriend is also 13.and we have been on and off for like 6 years but we have known eahother for 10 years i guess thats why i trust hims so much.plzz help me i dont know waht to do will they kick me out of school????will i be able to graduate?idk just plzz tell me what to do im only 13 and dont know what to do.
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beautiful101
11/12/2007 |
| ohh and get this my boyfriend dumped me today he tried to say that it never happened and that we were never together wow im and ediot to even want to be with him.but thats ok i dont need him.i got me and my friends and family.and a baby on da way.
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beautiful101
11/12/2007 |
| I am praying for you and your family as you go through theses trying times. Everyone makes mistakes. But it takes a very mature person to learn from that mistake so its not repeated again.
To those who write you with their self-righteous comments, irgore them because if they keep on living something will turn their lives upside down also.
You little sister be encourage to know that you have yourself and baby to think about. And that baby NEEDS ITS MOTHER!
You will never forgive yourself if you gave that baby away and you will never know how that baby is growing up or what it will be when it grows up. Nor what is happening to the baby as it is growing up.
Think! Do not react too quickly because of people judging you as though they have it all together.
Mother of a teen age mother to be who is 19.
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Ms T
11/18/2007 |
| I think this is very helpful information and very serious stuff to consider. Thirteen, Fourteen i mean your at a very tender age in your life. I was eighteen when i found out i was pregnant and am glad every day that i made the decision to have my daughter but it's not easy.I have worked very hard to make sure that my family doesn't have to raise my child, and they haven't had to. There are nights when your baby decides to stay up for two hours per feeding because they are restless and don't want to sleep. You alone will have to be the one staying up with that child.whether or not you have school the next day. You say you have a job well how long do you think that is going to last after you have the baby? Most daycares dont accept new born babies so right there your going to have to get help from welfare and they are only going to give a few hundred dollars every month. Believe me i work in this field. Your parents are going to pick up the slack. I'm not saying don't have the baby but if your going to make an honest decision to keep the child than you need to do some real thinking. you need to make sure you have health care lined up whether it be under your parents plan or through welfare because medical expenses can be horific. You will probably only get six months to a year to spend with your baby before you will need a daycare subsidy so you can work full time or get student funding so you can stay in school. Welfare won't help you if your not helping yourself. You are no longer a child so you won't be able to call your mom when your sick and want to go home from school or work because your gonna need that paycheck at the end of the month or your high school diploma so you can make a life for this baby. That baby will be priority #1. So don't expect that you are aloud to go hang out at the mall and be a teenager because your not you are now a parent. People can say dance and activities don't matter but what about that childs social development? They will need interaction with kids on a daily basis not just at daycare. You need to do your research now and learn about different programs like kidsport that will fund your child to dance or whatever they choose. These programs are here to help in situations like this. Just don't make this your parents problem just because you are young doesn't mean that you won't take the best care of this child but you need to make the changes now and get informed now and give this baby the best. This is up to you.
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22with2girls
11/29/2007 |
| While most of your post is correct,it is a little over dramatic.My daughter is 14 and having a baby,while this isnt what I had planned for her life and not the direction I wanted her life to go in at this age,the fact is,she is going to have a baby.She will live at home with me,her and her baby will both be on my insurance,she will go back to school after she has her baby and the(newborn) baby will go to a state certified babysitter while she is in school.(we already have her babysitter lined up)Since she is 14,she is too young to get a regular job,so she does babysitting at home part time and she has signed for for a few programs on parenting and such.And just as she is expected to take care of her new baby,I will take care of her,because whether she has a child or not,she is still my child and is my responsibility.I support her after she has made a mistake,just as I did before she got pregnant.Having a baby does not have to be a bad thing or a burden,babies are a gift from god and should be cherished forever.Girls unfortunately are having babies at a young age,but it is not our responsibility to chastize and criticize our young mothers,but it is our responsibility to help them along and point them in the right direction once their babies arrive.I have never yelled at my daughter for getting pregnant,I would never let her first experience as a mother,be a bad one.And always remember-moms of pregnant teens-this isnt about you,it is about your daughter,help her as much as you can.
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mom123
12/7/2007 |
| hey im 14 and was raped...i got pregnant out of it and now im SOOOOO scarred. I ahve no idea about what to do and how to tell my parents friends and the FATHER..can some1 please give me some help!
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bethy rox
1/6/2008 |
| Call the police right away if you have been raped.If you are pregnant,tell your parents what happened to you.If youre keeping the baby,you need medical attention right away and the person who raped you should be in jail.
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mom123
1/7/2008 |
| sorry i have not been on in so long but i have been so busy with school and the baby that i dont have time for anything else btu im happy with my desicion to keep the baby her name is krystal star smith.she is the most amazing person ever i dont know how to explain it but from the first time i held her i instanly loved her.its kinda like a mothers nature.
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baby_mama_4446
1/9/2008 |
| Congratulations on your baby girl.You are going to be a wonderful mother.
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mom123
1/10/2008 |
| ive just turned 16 but i was only 15 when i got pregnant and to all the people hu doubts teen mums i av a lil sister hu is extremelly disabled and she is far harder 2 luk afta then a child without speciel needs so is any1 goin to tell me to get my baby adopted no u aint even if u do im gonna think of you as a low lyf old fationed waste of space all you do becouse your lyf is so perfect is take peices out of girls askin for help but that is classed as bullying which makes you to immature self centered to have kids yourself it is the 21st centery nt the 18th we have lights ther aint candles anymore its your own capability you can be a rubbish mother no matter your age an people handle rape in many different ways i hav been raped twice an i went to the cops the 1 st time bt the stuff they ask u its horrible bt it all depends how u take things !!!!!
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playgirl15
1/11/2008 |
| i am 17 and getting closer and closer to having this baby and i am so scared, but everytime i look at the altrasounds and see my baby all that fear goes away. i know it is not at all the right time for me and i can imagine its not the right time for u either but after u have this child every fear that u ever had will dissapear. i have not got a crap at school yet but most people are shocked that i am pregnant, but u may get called names and stuff but dont worry about it. u know u are not a or anything so just worry about u and that baby
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Rachum09
1/16/2008 |
| dont listen to that mrs.p lady cause she doesnt know what she is talking about. u keep ur kid and u will raise it fine. i am sure u will be a fine mom. she just thinks if u get pregnant under 18 then u are a failure but guess what it happens to alot of people and it doesnt make u a failure. as long as u finish school and raise ur child like a good mother then u and ur baby will be fine. sometimes u can use all the protection and one of those things just get through. it is no ones fault it just happened.
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Rachum09
1/16/2008 |
| I Just Found Out That Im Pregnant But Im Not Sure How Long thru Could Be A Month Im Not Sure. I Dont No What To Do Because I Dont No If I Want To Keep It, But If I Get An Abortion i Will Regret It For The Rest Of Mii Life.! And My Boyfriend Is Okay With It He Said Its Up 2 Me!
But I Dont No How To Tell My Parents ? As We Have Been Having Probs With Skl Last Year We Have A Social Worker And Im Not Sure Wot Will Happen ! ? I Really Do Want It But I Dont ? Please Help x
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XxBabiiGuurlxX
1/20/2008 |
| Sorry i Forgot To Include Im Only 14!!
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XxBabiiGuurlxX
1/20/2008 |
| Tell your mom,she will help you decide what to do.My daughter is 14 and pregnant and its a decision she needed my help with,dont worry everything will be okay and dont be afraid to tell your mom.But tell her as soon as possible,you need medical attention.
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mom123
1/21/2008 |
| Remember,no one can make you have an abortion.
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mom123
1/21/2008 |
| i most agree with ms. p because every thing she said is correct infact she hit the nail right on the head. i know because i had my first child when i was 14. and every where i go people have zero respect for me infact it has tarnish my whole image. even now when i regrester him for school and paople look at his birth certificate they look back at me with disgust hell i feel digusted when i look at it. right know at 26 im married with a 6yrs old and i am embarass to tell my husband how old i realy was when i had my son,and the birth certificate is hidden somewhere far where he can never find it. and trust me when i say you do not have the knowledge it takes to raise a child what i am going to tell you is read every single parenting books or magazines you can find and try to raise that child the right way.trust me those books help
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vbeckford0326
1/21/2008 |
| I feel sorry for Mrs.P,she must have been raised in one of the most un-loving environments,she should seek out counseling,I have never heard such bitterness from someone.
As for vbeckford0326,
Being a mother is nothing to be ashamed, of and if you have lied to your husband about your age because you had a child at a young age,then you must not really believe he loves you,which brings me to ask...why did you marry him?If you think he will no longer love you because you were a teen-mother,then perhaps you should start thinking about divorce.
As for even thinking about saying you are embarrassed because you got pregnant as a teen,then you too need counseling.You only have one life and you have to live with the chioces you made,you did the right thing,what was your alternative? Taking yourself to an abortion clinic so some sick "doctor" could hack up the baby you had living inside you?Honestly,get with the program!
As for people looking down on you,who the hell cares what other people think,this is your one and only life you are ever going to live,are you going to waste it worrying about what other people think?Or are you going to enjoy the one life the lord gave you and live it how you want to live it?
I am so sick of other people who judge you like they are all perfect and have never made a mistake.You should be holding your head up high,because you did the right thing and enjoy being a mother,children are a gift from God!
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mom123
1/22/2008 |
| i feel that mrs p is correct in what she feels, maybe she just doesnt express it in a nice way! I am 29 and have been with my husband for 11 years, we desperatly want to have children but due to pcos i have not been blessed. It saddens me to hear or young children such as yourself bringing another child into the world when u r a child yourself who needs looking after.It also makes me very bitter and angry when i am in a happy marriage wanting to be blessed with a child. When i am having a good day i realise that there are some, -only a few ; very mature 14-15 year olds who can cope, and i praise you if you are one of them. All i ask it that you realise you have been truely blessed with your child, and that there are many who will never have what you have, so cherish her and care for her every day, no matter how tired or how much you want to go out with your friends, remember she is your number 1 priority. Good luck xx
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mustangnm1
1/23/2008 |
| I Agree, But Although Im 14 Myself. I Didnt Want To Have This Baby At My Age But When I Think About The People Out There Who Cant Have Kids And Struggle To Cope Because They Really Want A Baby, I Couldnt Go Through With The Abortion ! So Im Going To Keep My Baby
I Belive That Im Mature Enough To Look After Him Or Her. It Will Be Very Hard But With Friends And Family And My Boyfriends Family I Think It Will Be Ok :) Good Luck To All x
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XxBabiiGuurlxX
1/25/2008 |
| I need advice really bad!!! I am 20 yrs old and currently 5 months pregnant and my pregnancy is a result of rape. I really don't know what to do about the guy that raped me. A part of me wants to send him to prison while another part wants him to be there for my son, because I grew up without a father and I don't want my son to do the same. I know its crazy of me to think this way, but I am willing to put my feelings to the side for my baby. I went to the cops, but they made me feel so bad and its more than a month later and they still haven't arrested him, so I told them I wanted to drop the charges. I spoke to the guy and he's talking about he wants to be there and he will help. But then again I don't know if he would really be there. I believe he did this to me on purpose because he always liked me but I didn't like him (for he is not my type) I really hate him and want him dead but don't want my son to grow up fatherless. As u can see I am very confused and any words of wisdom would be greatly appreciated. I also feel so alone. I can't talk to my friends or anyone because they just don't understand how much of a toll this is taking on me. Oh God I can ramble on all night but someone please help me!!! Thanks
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Sincere77
1/28/2008 |
| Sincere77 - I am a stepfather and I know first hand what a rotten person person can do to a child. You do not want a person like that in your child's life. Your child can look to you for guidance. There are other ways to have a male role model in a child's life, like a friend ,a brother, or relative. Families come in all shapes and sizes so you do not have to let him be around you just so you fit the ideal family persona. Plus you have to consider if he could do something like that to you than what might he do to your child. If your afraid to raise a child alone, don't be you can do it. It will be hard at times. Lean on friends and family during those times, that's what they are there for. As far as he goes you should find a organization that helps rape victims, they can help with counseling, getting the law to listen to you, or anything else you may need. I can not tell you what to do but please at least get that guy out of your life and get some counseling. I hope this helps. Good luck to you.
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Happy
1/29/2008 |
| well i would like to say da same thing but i got preg at that age of 15 well right now and that only sopport from my friends well to be really honest with you my mom told me that my child was not her grandbaby well how do think i felt when she told me ok well hope to hear from you again well i will be posting pic of my baby well i might have twin cause like it runs in my boyfriends family ok well i got 2 go
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lynn
1/31/2008 |
| gurl you should expect alot of things that will change in your life well you might lose alot of friends and some family but who cares gurl pos i hope you get over dat fear and you keep your baby
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lynn
1/31/2008 |
| dont worry they cant do that cause its your baby not theirs and your da one that went trew da pain not them so dont worry just live your live and have it ok there will be alot of people that will help you
love lynn
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lynn
1/31/2008 |
| I'm pregnant to and I'm 17 I'm 3 months I'm also really scared i don't really know what i should do i feel like I'm on my own because my boy friend ain't really no help I mean he wanted to get me pregnant since I"ve been with him and that's 1 year and 4 months and now he don't want it he says he does then again changes his mind It really hurt me because i thought he'd be the best but now he's just a jerk I'm now living with him and been for 3 months now I'd say and he treats me bad he hurts my feelings I'm crying everyday wondering why are things this way now and yes at time's I"m not the best girlfriend but O really try to be he it me in the stomach 2 times already and says and times i hope you have a miscarage makes me have sex when i don't want to at times but i do so because i don't want to argue and he also tells me get out of my house i don't want you here no more I"m tired of you you bother
go live in a shelter it just really hurt's so i mean i hope you have a good baby daddy there to support you because some people don't have the support like me if you got support then be happy and injoy your pregnacy i wish i could well injoy your self and congratulations .
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Luscious
1/31/2008 |
| You need to get away from him as soon as possible and you should call the police and report him.If he treats you this way,he will probably treat your baby the same way,can you handle someone abusing or possibly killing your child?
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mom123
2/2/2008 |
| Does ne1 live in Brooklyn? Im trying 2 figure out the best place 2 deliver...
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Sincere77
2/7/2008 |
| well i can tell you this is to leave him and just call the police on him ok well i was gong throw that but my boifreind has changed
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lynn
2/11/2008 |
| well right now im livin with my friend cuz my ma kicked me out and disclaimed me and my baby!
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baby_mama_4446
2/23/2008 |
| thank you so much!
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baby_mama_4446
2/23/2008 |
| oooh yeah i almost for got.. do you blame me for wanting to keep it? i mean this little helpless life is growing inside of me.. it almost feels unreal! and its depending on me... on mommy to be there for it!... god has a plan for her/him already.. and would i be committing a worse sin of getting rid of it or having it at such a young age
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megan14
3/3/2008 |
| hi my name is keicia, and i was preg my sons dad rapped me last year in feb.2 on his 14th b-day and then i had my son in oct.22.07 he left me a week left and walked out on his son but really my ex dont care about his son and really i dont care cosue all my ex is is a rappedst like his dad and the rest of his family, but i have my mom and dad and sister and friends helpin me with my son and i know how you feel couse you dont know what to do or if you will get to keep the baby or what your family will think i know all that couse me sister still dont like is that i have eragon but she will live, and i really wish my ex didnt rapped me and i wish he was a better kid couse then he would be a lot better and stuff with more ppl and if he will stop playin his games and usein girls and playin them and rappening them he would be a lot better i think will i know he would but he is just like is family nothing but lies and rappers
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baby_eragon_200
3/5/2008 |
| i think its stupid to take life away if you dont want the baby then you can give the baby to someone that wants kids but dont kill that baby its not right its just stupid, couse i know at the time i didnt want my son couse the the way my ex was but after i had my son i am glad that my mom didnt make me give him up at all and plus i dont think my mom would have anyways couse that is not the way my mom is
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baby_eragon_200
3/5/2008 |
| my comments is that i'm 25 yrs old and i'm about to have another child again you got to learn that its going to be hard bc you young and long as you got long support behind you, that all that its can't, pray about it "keep your head up"
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k.andrews
3/19/2008 |
| get an aborition, it's that simple. sorry, but what else are you going to do? you can't raise a child and if you aren't responsible enough to use birth control and think about that before having sex maybe you shouldn't be doing it. at the very least get an abortion and use the (thank goodness now over-the-counter) morning after pill.
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evenstar628
3/19/2008 |
| evenstar628-You have no soul and Im positive I know where your going when you die.
A baby is a human being and you cant just have an abortion and forget about it,that is a decision that will haunt you for the rest of your life!
Dont come on here giving advice to people you dont even know,youre getting part of the story,not the whole picture.Babies deserve a chance to be born and to live.If someone has an unwanted pregnancy,they can always give the baby up for adoption,they dont have to murder their child.You shouldnt even be allowed to post on this board,you are clearly misguided and have no common sense.
There is plenty of help out the for moms who want to keep their babies too.So mind your business and go to church Sunday and beg the lord for forgiveness and ask him to help you become less ignorant!
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mom123
3/21/2008 |
| mom 123 - while I haven't agreed with much of your advice - this last bit is perfect - well said!
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mom of 2
3/26/2008 |
| Wow I can't believe people used your question as an opportunity to give you unwarranted advice where it wasn't any of their business!! People's beliefs about abortion and young pregnancy are NOT an appropriate answer for a young scared girl! SHAME on all of you!!
So for all of you that are young, pregnant and scared..here's what I can tell you. (I'm not trying to influence your decision if you are considering not having the child, but I can tell you a little about what to expect based on my experience). I had my daughter when I was 20 (and not a very mature 20 I might add). I had no idea whatsoever what I was in for but I wouldn't trade a second of the hard times because my daughter is the most amazing person (15 now) and without her I think my life would have been empty and lost. I became a single mother six months after she was born. Fortunately I had family that I could count on for help. I had imagined when I was pregnant that dad would be "half her parent" but that never even remotely happened. I was scared to death, with no real plans for how I was going to support us, or the slightest idea how to go forward alone. But you know what? When someone else's life is your responsibility it's amazing the ways you can find to make things work. There were some really tough times, and I had a good number of people telling me the really STUPID and shallow crap about how I couldn't be fit mother without money to do all the things that the suburban kids do these days. For a few years my daughter didn't have "piano lessons" but she did have a mom that loved her more than anything and watching her grow brought more light into my life than I could have imagined. It completely screwed up the whole dating, college, be young thing for me. You do have to be prepared for that. Once you have a child they need to be your top priority, so your needs, wants and plans get set aside a lot. I was a spoiled kid so sometimes that was a hard one. You will be tired. You will laugh. You will cry. You will want to scream. You will learn to dislike the sound of cartoons (at least I did). You will wish you could sleep in. You will wish you could be like other kids your age. But one thing will be different - you will have a sweet beautiful angel that will fall asleep in your arms and will one day look up at you and call you "Mommy." That's the most amazing thing I've ever experienced.
I don't believe in mistakes, just choices. I wish you the very best in the one that you are making / you've made. I really hope you have some support from someone.
Please let me know if I can help / listen / etc.
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jeneee
4/7/2008 |
| I'm fourteen years old and I'm eight months pregnant. Naturally, I am terrified but because I made the decision to go out and do what I did, I'm going to deal with the consequences. There are so many teen mothers out there ho haven't the slightest idea on what to do when they become pregnant. They hear stories about other teen moms who "get rid" of their babies and no one has to know that they were ever pregnant. I'm not encouraging teen pregnancy at all but I want to go on record saying that I gave another teen mom in my position the confidence to walk tall. Parenting is going to be tough for me like any other mother this young, I know, but that does not mean that I have to put a hold on my life, or end it (or my baby's) just because I'm clearly not ready for this. You got to understand that your life aint over yet...it's just beginning
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teen_dreams93
4/11/2008 |
| First of all, don't even worry about your boyfriend right now. the most important thing right now is that you tell your parents you're pregnant. Even you don't really wanna be pregnant, you don't wanna give birth to an unhealthy baby. Let them know straight up that you're pregnant and see a OB/GYN A.S.A.P it's better than them finding out when too late for other options....trust me
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teen_dreams93
4/11/2008 |
| i'm sorry i'm 18 and i have to agree with Mrs. P she's right your way to young to be having sex let alone having a baby. You shouldn't even know about sex yet! You're a child! and she's right you should give it the best possible life but at the same time YOU got yourself into it YOU should have the responsability to take care of it.
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Kydanielle08
4/23/2008 |
| My daughter is 19 and pregnant. The babies daddy is not involved anymore. You will make it through it. Remember BABIES are a blessing from GOD.
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PaulaJ
5/1/2008 |
| While having a baby at a young age is very hard,lets not be over-dramatic,ok? My 14 year old daughter had a baby March 16th.I never in a million thought my little girl would get pregnant at such a young age,but she did.I dont believe in abortion(none of my business if other people do it,it is an idividual choice,some can,some cant,I cannot) This child is a blessing from God,everything happens for a reason,deal with the situation and move on,be it keeping the baby or giving it up,no one can truly give you good advice unless they have been in the situation themselves,so dont listen to anyone on this page,its easy to run your mouth but not quite as easy to follow through,if you have never been 14 and pregnant,then please keep your ignorant,unexperienced comments to yourself,this is an insane enough time for these young girls,go to the adult page if youre 18 or over and leave the underage pregnancy advice to people who know what theyre talking about,this isnt about you and your opinion,its about the young girls in these situations.Dont be so selfish and self-righteous. No one needs to hear uneducated voices.
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mom123
5/1/2008 |
| i am 14 and i am parent and im so scarred i mean the dad is there and stuff but my parents dont know im way to scarred to tell them can they make me give up the baby and i dont want to
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samanthadominic
5/2/2008 |
| Hiyaa. Dont listen to the negative comments. They must be jelous or something. i am 14 and i was 36 weeks gone and realy lookiing forward to having my baby. At first my mum really didnt want me to keep it, but she has come round knowing that i will make sure it has everything it needs. Alot of my friends at first had a go at me and fell out with me and it was hard because i had know one, and the father didnt wat anything to do with him, but now everyone noes that i dont care what they think they are starting to respect me. And im not a slag, and im not worthless, there is a reson i am pregnant. Having a baby inside of me is kind of wired but i love it, but latly he likes to kick, and it hurts. Im quite lucky aswel because i dont have strech marks, and hopfully i wont. i always get craving for marshmellows at the moment and i love it, i am soexcited about having my baby and you hould be to. its one of the gratest things ever. i hope everything goes well for you. Well done hunny... x
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Georgina.x
5/3/2008 |
| hey i got preg when i was 14 i know how she is feeling couse my sons dad left me and waled out on his son when he was only a week old
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babyeragon2007
5/5/2008 |
| yes they can make you give the baby up but just sit with them and tell then how you feel samanthadominic they can help you with the baby then it comes couse that is what my mom and dad are doing is helping me couse my sons dad walked out when he was only a week old and not my ex wants back in his sons life when i gave him a secend chance to be there all he wanted to do was go and more girls that is all he ever dus he was playin me and usein me just to get me preg when i was with him for the year i was with him
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babyeragon2007
5/5/2008 |
| No,they cannot make you give the baby up,please dont give advice on this page if you do not know what youre talking about.
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mom123
5/5/2008 |
| hi im 14 and i thank im going to have a baby but i dont get sick or eat a lot but im geting big so im i haveing a baby??
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n1kk1
8/5/2008 |
| you mrs p have no right to talk to people like that how dare you put a young child down like that when she is clearly kicking herself already and not to mention she is pregnant and a t a vunable stage in life she needs all the surport she can get and the advice too so that she can bring this child up and raise it in a good enviroment. my mother had her baby at 14 and he didnt turn out to bad he is one heck of a base player and is playing for really good money her also owns his own house and has 3 kids himself and is one good dad i might say for having a solo mum she had 3 kids by the time she was 20 and we all turned out great my other brother is a kung fu teacher and travels around the world and i have 2 kids and one on the way and studing to be a midwife so you cant say that being young your child is going to have no life at all i know some mothers that are having babies at 12 and they are doing just find although they need the suport from there family to do so or very good friends and for you to say give the child a good start in live by giving it away how is that a good start for one you dont know who you are giving it to and most children end up in foster care not a good stable home and when they are in foster care it can be with people that abuse those child for there sick minds and not to mention that when they grow up all they feel is hate towards their mother for giving them up and sticking them in this bad home cause they were too dumb to look after them so the best place wether young or old is with there mother unless the mother is a drugy or living in a abused enviroment then the baby should not be there but you can not judge other people till you know then well enough to judge how would you like it if people did that to you and fyi i get looked at for having my kids alot and i am 25 with 2 under 3 and one on the way it not how old you people are just nosey
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nikki2kids
8/10/2008 |
| Okay I realize the original post is from several months ago; however, I stumbled on this and had to reply to some of the comments left on here. Firstly, to those of you who have tried to brow beat this poor girl into thinking she absolutely cannot be a good mother at 14 years of age, in particular Mrs. P., you should be ASHAMED of yourselves!!! You are exactly the kind of people who force many young women to give their children up despite their personal wants (and capabilities), and the same kind of people who will ultimately make some young mother out there actually believe your BS and just give up trying. Believe me, I know because I've been in the shoes of this young girl and had people just like you who NEARLY made me give in. Thank GOD I didn't!!!
Secondly, while I won't applaud this young girl for getting pregnant so young, I WILL applaud her for seeking advice and help. Many young girls would not. I would also applaud her for giving it her best (if she keeps the baby - I admit I didn't read all the posts so I'm not sure if she sent an update or not), and if she decides it's best to give the baby up (for HER OWN reasons, not those of the pig headed people who left nasty remarks on here) then I would applaud that as well.
That said, here is my advice and opinion, for better or worse. I was a young mother. My daughter was born when I had just turned 17. She is a beautiful girl (now nearly 12) and has turned out wonderfully. She is smart, and talented, has a good head on her shoulders and has a bright future ahead of her. It was very hard at first. I had to make some major adjustments and sacrifices, and many, many people tried to talk me into abortions, adoptions, etc. (including my own doctor!). I'm extremely glad I did not fall for the baloney that so many people tried to feed me, saying I was too young, I would never be a good mom, etc. I was and am not only a good mom, but a GREAT mom! My daughter ALWAYS came first. I did not finish high school; although I got a job to take good care of her in the first few years so I would not have to rely on my family too much. I went back to school when she was older (which by the way was also AFTER I got a good paying job with one of the top companies in the country, despite my lack of education) and I have NEVER had a day where I could not provide for her. Her father left me when I was 4 months pregnant, and so I raised her ALONE (until I met my current husband - yes marriage is possible even for a young, single mother. Amazing!!!) and did a good job of it too. I did not have much support from my family - they allowed me to stay with them until I could afford my own place, but they were also the same people who tried daily to get me to relinquish my parental rights to them because they "wanted me to have a life". They didn't realize (as many people apparently don't) that once you have a baby, that IS your life.
While I don't promote getting pregnant at a young age, I will say that having my daughter saved my life. Honestly. Before she was part of my life, I was heading swiftly towards self-destruction. My daughter changed MY life for the better. She made me step back and take responsibility. She made me look at my situation and make serious changes to my attitudes, my habits, and even my friends. I grew up. And despite what some people may say, growing up fast at a young age isn't always a bad thing.
And by the way, I would NEVER consider my daughter to be a mistake, so the people who say "you made a mistake" are wrong. Creating a life is not a mistake, it's a gift. It's what you do with that life afterwards that makes the difference. I hope you've made the right choice for yourself and the baby.
Don't listen to the junk people will want to filly our head with. Those people think they can control and direct your thoughts because you're young and obviously "stupid" (in their eyes anyhow), but you have every right to make your own choice in this. You can be a GREAT mom, even at 14 years of age, despite what the world tells you, if you persevere and get your priorities straight. And no, not everybody will look at you like you're a freak because you have a child at such a young age, and no your kid will NOT be teased in school for having a young mom!!! That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. No, you won't necessarily be "alone" for the rest of your life - there are lots of guys out there who are NOT freaked out by kids, and you are very likely to meet somebody who will care for both you AND your child. And no, you don't have to resign to living on welfare, getting food stamps, or having your family and friends support you financially, but even if you do need financial support for a time, don't feel badly!!! What's important is that you do what needs to be done to take care of yourself and your child. Good luck and I wish you all the best in whatever you choose to do.
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Proud YOUNG Mom
8/14/2008 |
| Well i think you should go ahead with it im 13 turnin 14 in november and im having twins i cant wait i had a scan yesturday and i found out it a girl and a boy omg i CANT wait i know its goin to be hard but i have saved like loads of money i havent told my parents cuz i live with my bf and his parents my bf is 13 and he wants to help me every step of the way and always be there for me we have known eachm other every since playgroup lol. Well Congrats i found out aswell that my babys are born a day before my b-day . me and shane ( my boyfriend ) cant wait to hold them in are arms
i am really scared to have twins will it be hard work ? is it painfull to have them please help me please im begging wat shal i do ?
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im havin twins
8/16/2008 |
| ok i dont know where my last reply went to but ill re say it congrats on the twin i must say that having one baby is going to hard work but 2 wonder why you were dealt with that hand but it is a good thing i really wish i had twins lol just for my selfish reason but i stilll love my 2 kids they nearly twins born 2 years apart but on the same day how lucky am i. i am pregnant with my 3rd and i find it hard everyday waiting for when i get a break from morning sickness my 2 kids are sick well one is and the baby is teething so lucky me i have to put up with them both crying cant wait till my son starts kindy next month that will be a good thing i hope he loves it there. anyways i have to tell you that dont be shy to ask for help and to let people help you having one baby is hard enought but you are having too it will be tuough in the first few weeks of life or untill you have got a routine going at least i need my routine i cant live with out it lets my kids no when it is nap time etc. if you need advice on how to seet one up ill be glad to help you here my email jeramnikki@slingshot.co.nz. can i ask why you live with your b/f and does your b.f parents know that they are going to be grand parents of not just one baby but 2. i know that i am going to sound neg here but have you put a plan aside for when things wont work out with you and your b/f cause yes you have been together for so many years but you are i say having not just one baby but 2 and i must xsay that most boys dont take that to wwll once they are here and flee it just a boy thing they dont really know 100% how to handle things once they get here not just boys there are men that take of and leave women sitting there alone with the baby each night i know sound neg but you have to think of that too not just the happy things in life if for any reason you and you b/f cant be together you must have a plan to cope with the babies so i recomend you tell your parents i mean first they will be mad but since your living with you b/f they cant really tell you to get rid of them and once they are born they might start to change and get used to it that way it things happen with your man you will still have your family to full back on trust me you will need them for the tough times. ,e and my mum dont see eye to eye but for some reason i still call her and ask for adivce on what i was like when i was a baby and if it was the same then i asked her what did she do to help me be happy and then i would use it. hummmmmmmmmm how many friends have you lost once you told them you were pregnant i bet most of their mums found out and told them to stay away from you just incase you make their kids have babies i hope that you having lost to many friends my mum did when she got pregnant she was 14 funny thing that was half her friends used to tell her that they were having sex so my mum thought that it was the in thing to do she just moved for a different town so wanted to make friends i know bad idea but back then its what they usualy do anyways you can guess the rest she got pregnant with my brother and lost nearly all her friend but one she could go back to school they wouldnt let her she was told to give up the baby she even signed the form and another couple were about to take him home when my grandad saw my mum crying so he teared it up and said she could keep him at first she didnt know what to do but she got used to it she could go out though once one of the rules she had was to stay home for a year then they will look after him from time to time. she had another son when she was 16 and then me when she was 21 she says she would change having us but the way she had us as we all wernt planned well my brother was just not me as she was trying to get out as her husband used to beat her up alot she didnt want my brothers in with that long story short she slept with her lawyer as he told her that it was ok to and she got pregnant but she dont know if with him or her ex so i dont know who my father is that bit there she would change she has always regreted it cause i got teased by my brothers alot family aye.. anyways just thought i would put a bit about my self in there and to say good luck to you and to email me if you need some advice on routines for your babies
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nikki2kids
8/17/2008 |
| im 14 and pregant. but im one my own cuz i dont know how to tell my parents or inyone. in my familly or friends. i hide my body for no one to find out. wat should i do im scared and confused. i need so much help. i told the father of the babby its my boyfrined and his happy. but he wont tell his parents and i dont wont to tell my parentd cuz thay sed if i did this agen they are going to send me off to an all girl bording school im paris. im scared. HELP
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morgan
9/9/2008 |
| Tell your parents right away,you need medical attention sweetie.Dont be scared and dont think your own mom would do that to you,but if she tried,you dont have to go anywhere you dont want to and remember,no one can make you have an abortion.Dont worry,everything will be okay.If you want my email address to chat,I will give it to you.My daughter had a baby at the age of 14,while its too young to have a baby,the fact is..you are going to have a baby.
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mom123
9/10/2008 |
| im 17 and im pregnant i know that's 3 years apart but i know how you feel. my bf wanted to the baby and i wasn't ready he didn't tell me about it until after we founded out. he tells me all the things he wants to do for me and the baby. but the hard thing for me to do is tell my dad. after i told my dad we went to the doctor and they told me how far along i was and what my due date was. everything have change between me and my dad. my boyfriend is here fopr me but now his sister is mad at me. she think that im takeing over his life but im not. and she is 16 and have a 2 year old son and boy do his sister have a mouth on her. i ask him to talk to her but he don't want her yelling at him. its really hard because i really love him but i don't want to come between him and his sister. i really don't know what to do. can anyone help me? i kinda want to break up with him because or all of this. so what should i do?
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babymama_17
10/24/2008 |
| Just found out i was pregnant at 13 turning 14 on januarry. Expecting a baby and scared of my mum , dad and family telling me otherwise to give up my baby because of my age , and to disown me. God has blessed us with a gift and aborting or adopting it is not an option for me.
Totally scared to break my mums heart , but it'd eventually have to come out either way
xOxOxOxOxOx
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pwetii_giirl
11/12/2008 |
| i'm only 15 and i'm expecting my baby in august. i did have worries at first but they went soon after. it's best not to be stressed during pregnancy because your baby picks up on those feelings too. just because your 14, doesn't mean you can't love someone or a child as much as people do when they're 24 or 34. age doesn't really matter. i've been with my boyfriend nearly 3 years and we're engaged, so i suppose i'm quite lucky. i've got my family supporting me, my friends and my boyfriend and his family. i didn't really have to tell my mum i was pregnant, she just guessed. i wouldn't advise anyone to give up their child for adoption no matter how old they are. at the end of the day everyone can be a good mum, and you've just got to give yourself the chance.
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jada; mummy2be.
2/10/2009 |
| Im sure you will be great i had my baby boy at 14 and it was the best decision i ever made. Lets just say i wasn't exactly well behaved to start with i didnt go to school and i drank and other stuff u probz know what i mean. Then i found out i was pregnant and my whole life changed for the best. I wanted the best for my little one and i went to school and got a job and took care of my body because i so wanted my baby to be healthy. My parents when they found out went mad as expected but now all they do is smile at my lil lad and they stood by me and the babies daddy.I admit it isnt easy because your so young and your life changed forever as mine and so many others do. You also find out who are your real friends, you may get looks but i didnt give a s**t what they thought i was always gonna look after him abortion was out of the question and adoption. I hadnt gone through 9 hard months to just give him away. It's safe to say he's my world and i would never change anything that happened he is the one i live for and i love him with all of my heart. - Charley && Brooklyn x
Good Luck =) x
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MummyToBrooklyn
3/20/2009 |
| n im 15 now still at school, getting good grades
Mrs P - Young mums can be just as good as any other mums and personally id prefer to have a young mum thats just me though. Who needs dancing and theatre or w.e c**p you were on about all a child needs is love not fansy dance and s**t Blimey and at least we aint aborting our babies so please dont stereotype there are people out there who may not be ideal but you know nothing what each girl has gone through for all you know they could have been raped. So before opening ur big mouth and basically calling us s***s. Get to know the actual person and im sorry if i offend any of you but i dont see how you can judge people im sure if it was your daughter you would stand by her or you may just be heartless. Least give us a chance to prove how wrong people like you are YOUNG MUMS ARE JUST AS FRIKKEN GOOD AS ANY OTHER MUMS AND IM SICK OF ALL THE ! RUBBISH ! WE GET SO IF YOU HAVE NOTHING NICE TO SAY THEN DONT LOOK ON TEEN PREGNANCY RELATED QUESTIONS AND ANSWER THEM BECAUSE TO ME IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR TRYING TO GET ABUSE BACK ! we are good mums to our kids and thats all we care about - love to all you teen mums out there <3 - Charley && Brooklyn
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MummyToBrooklyn
3/20/2009 |
| hi. i am only 14 too... and also pregnant ; i am not scared of having the baby, or taking care of it, its just telloing my parents.. not as much my mom, as my dad ; i have taken care of my baby cuz since the day she was born three years ago, and so taken care of a baby is not my worry, just my parents are kinda mean.. and i have already gotten expelled from scho0ol, and and they were VERY upset with me and now im not sure what to tell them.. or even how to tell them. i am only 1 months ; and no where close to showing.. but i dont know weather to tell my parents now, or just let them find out. also i know who the father is... absolutely postive who he is, but we are not together any longer, he nows that i am.. just he tells me sometime that he dont believe me or it isnt his, or if it is he aint gonna have anything to do with the baby. and that kinda scares me.. i mean i dont need him in my life, but i want my child to know who its daddy is, sometimes he tells me he wants to be apart of its life and other times he sayd he dont... and he treatens me with little things to upset me... like if i dont let him name the baby then he aint gonna be in its life.. and just little immature things like that. it dont hurt my feelings at all.. just a little frustrating ;]... i know about 9 girls under 15 that are pregnant, and they have all told there parents.. and im not sure how?! maybe cuzz there parents dont care and lett them do whatever they wantt.. b ut thats not how my parents are ; and ive always wanted to have a baby at a young age but never thought it wuld really happen i was always to scared... or atleast to scared to tell my parents. only a couple friends i cann trust know.. and im afraid of it going around.. and some friends say abortion..HELL NO! or adoption.. and i just cant do that... nobody understands its not the fact of havin the baby its just tellin my parents.. i already know what its like to havin a beautiful baby to call you mommy, she is my kidd, and noone could change that , she is like my daughter. and she calls me momy, and i call her my daughter.. but i dont think its the same as your own baby saying it.. well i just need a little advice what to doo. and somewhere to say what im feeling.. =] ; thanks if you can help.
--->[ MoMmYy tO bE ]<---
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mommy_2_be
4/5/2009 |
| omdz i really dnt no what to do :( me and boii fwend have been togever over 6 months now he loves me and i know he does we have had sex im 14 and have been pregnant once buh after a ferw weeks i went to the brook to had a scan and there was no baby there i had lost it :( i was really heart broken because i wont a family with him so much we decided that in december i wil get pregnant again and give birth august 2010 thats not this august next buh my boii fwends 15 now and will be allmost 17 when its born so will he get arrested and will i have the baby taken away from me by the social because my mom sed if i get pregnant again she will kick me out to a hostall and my dad will just bata me buh i litrally heart ache for somthink to be there i know im ready to be a mum i just no it buh my mom said my man will be arrested or was she just chatting to stop me HELP 0x
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holliiee'0x
4/7/2009 |
| helooo mommy_to_be i understand my mom and dad are really upset with me to and tbh i feel guilty that i have allways been a lil s**t but if yue wanna get read of it (wich i wouldnt lol) buh its totallt your choicee obv buh go the brook in town and get the 9 week pillits not too late or have an abortion yue can have one up to24 weeks buh if yue wanna keep your special first born just tellyour mom and ask he for your suport it ent easy tosay news like that tothe woman whos luked after yue alla your life and expected yue to grow up nice sweet and inocent buh its not like that thesedays lots of girls get pregnant and yue can be a good mom just if yue get support of the nanny to be xx
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holliiee'0x
4/7/2009 |
| and yeah i understand yue wont your likul boii or girlie to know who daddy is buh tbh if hes making threatning comments like that f*ck that gutless c*nt who cant even look at the mother of his baby and be man enough to lookafter it let him dwell on his own selfpitty when he idnt in the delivery room and dont have nothinkto do with his son/likul girl then he'll feel sorry for him selfee he ent man enough hesa f*cking p*ssy hole thats all he is im gunna putit blunt yue dont need him the f*cking coword
xx
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holliiee'0x
4/7/2009 |
| Such young girls, why have sex so young? Waiting is so much more special when its in a committed and truly love filled relationship. Children are such a blessing, your whole life is going to change but I know you will be strong and be able to make it through. Just a few years ago werent you just playing with dolls and toys still yourself? I wish the best for you. I know you will do the right thing and be a good mom and role model for your child. You can do it!
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lisalayne
4/16/2009 |
| Im 14 & 9 weeks pregnant. (Sigh) when I first found owt I cryed for dayss. It was hard too tell my mom. When I tld her I was 4 weeks. She was upset but she tld me that I should keep it bc we don't believe in abortions. I tld my boyfriend & he was just stunned! He's 16. Its difficult for me too go too school bc im scared that someone might bump into me & that happen once & it was painful. As soon as I got home I tld my mom & she took me to the doctors but luckly the baby was okay. Im almost 10 weeks but not showing that much just a lil but im looking forward too having myy baby!! =) ur gonna love it
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PrettyJay318
4/21/2009 |
| my girlfriend is also 14 and pregnant. she is gonna be 2 months april 27th. the doctor didnt tell us the due date so i dont know that. so we have told her family and mine. my family reacted alot worse than her family did. her family is gonna support her so im really happyy. she is moving this weekend so im not gonna see her for prob. over a year. im really sad. i wanna be there when she has it.
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junieblue94
4/21/2009 |
| im pregnant and im only 14 iv told ma boyfreind who is 17 he will be by my side all the wayim really scared i dont know how im going to tell my parent please any one who can help do i need it right away i fink im lyke 2 moths but not showing much yet
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kellysgirl14
5/13/2009 |
| hi my name is stacey wow 14 i had my frist one at 19 and i was so scared i cant imagaine at 14 how far along are you? are you having a boy or a girl? have you concerded adoption?
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hoping4another
5/22/2009 |
| i wont have an abortian its really crul i wont adopt ma child out i would like to bring it up my self i dont know what im having yet but ma bf did say he will be there all the wae for me he loves me so much and i love him we have been on and off so much for the past year i still havent told ma parents i dont know how but i nees to so i can get more support for the baby i dont want it to get sick or any fing so i need all the help i can get please any one
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kellysgirl14
5/24/2009 |
| i am 13 and seriously thinking about it. my parents divorced when i was two. and my dad died when i was 9. i have never had a normal life, but that has made me all the much stronger. my life is great and i wouldn't trade it. my bby will have a great friend. i will never leave my child and i am already homeschooled so tht is no problem. i can get money to feed my baby even if it means i go without mch food. i don't care if you think im not ready. i know i may not be ready. but i can still manage tht lifestyle. and yes i may be selfish, but is it so bad to want a love like that. a mom and a kids love is one of the strongest you will ever find.
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Wannabemommy
6/29/2009 |
| I would like to add, you just try not to worry and keep yourself healthy for your child...Do you have any family support?
If not look to the internet there are tons of sites were you can get help if you need it.
The most important thing is for you to stay in school and Im not gonna lie it is gonna be very hard but you must do this for you and your child. And dont let anyone make you think because of your age that you wont be a good parent if you love your baby thats the most important thing.
I dont know who Mrs.P is but she must be a bitter person to have said those things or she had a bad childhood???
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Cindy
7/15/2009 |
| im 14 an i might be pregnant too with a 16 yr old boyfriend. im goin through the same thing but i need advice too. anyone have it for mee??
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italian_girl
10/27/2009 |
| Hi everyone, I'm 14 and I would like to have a baby, but I scared becuz I'm still in school and I would like an education. If I do have a baby I would be scared of labor and how people would look at me. The reason I want a baby are they r so cute and I wish my parents would show me more attention. I am not listening to Ms. P so she need to keep her rude comments to herself. What are yall advice to me?
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Ms. BLOSSOM
11/8/2009 |
| hey gurl dont listen to her i know how you feel that you dont get the attention from them i didnt get that either but with a baby yes you get a nice feeling that you get to love someone and have them love you back. but it gets harder with time cause your 14 and your still a baby your self just chill with life i know that you want one look at me im 17 and i dont have support from my fam i live with my boyfriend and his fam but i feel like a baby still and i need to grow up cause im goign to be mom soon and plus my fun times i need to kiss good bye. are you ready to give those times up. PS IM HERE FOR YOU IF YOU NEED ME OKAY
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lynn
11/17/2009 |
| what where you thiking when you got pregnany i am only 16 year old and i am not pregnany like you are what were you relly wanting a baby so you got pregnany when you are 14 year old so do you need hlep and do you need advice i can give you adivce because i am in a parenting class in my school so if you need any help or adivce i will gladly give you adivce so please tell me if you do please
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samantha
11/30/2009 |
| Dont worry. As long as your family is there for you. Everything will be ok!
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shaneswifey11
12/1/2009 |
| Im 14 years old and might be pregnant....the father is my ex boyfriend and we pretty much dont get along sometimes...my parent are divorced so Im currently living with my mom. My mom's side of the family dont really like my ex boyfriend and are always telling me to never get pregnant or anything related to pregnancy or my ex....Im on my 3rd week and no one except my ex boyfriend knows..and he's not very supportive....I really need advise....
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leeyah
12/26/2009 |
| NO ONE SHOULD BE SCOLDING HER. Hun, you made a mistake, it's ok. I am 14, I know how you feel. I got pregnant a year ago, after talking with my boyfriend and discussing what we should do, we decided the only thing to do was tell our parents. My parents flipped out, his kicked him out of the house. So, he know is living at a children's home and my son and I have to make appointments to see him. I love my boyfriend, and I don't regret having my baby. He recently proposed but I declined for reasons of my own. First, tell your parents, then discuss options with them. Personaly, I am against abortions, but that is always an option. And, dont think your baby is going to get hell because of what his/her mom and dad did when they were young. MANY people are having babies at a young age now. Don't be ashamed. Remember, stress hurts your baby. So the sooner you tell, the better for the baby. Good luck.
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kat14
1/20/2010 |
| My ex and I are getting along now, but we still need to tell our parents...Im 7 weeks pregnant and my counselor has been telling me to tell my mom...Im deeply scared because she's very strict and expects too much out of me. Im definitely keeping my child, but how do I tell my mom? And most importantly.....how will she react....
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leeyah
1/21/2010 |
| hey im only 14 to and pregnant and the babies dad is still wit me..... i have no ttold my parents yet.... but he has told his.... we go to the same church,school, and we hang out a lot..... he has takin me to the doctor 1 time already.... he is sticking by my side and i am glad bc i love him and he loves me..... and he said if my parents kick me out that i can either come live at his house or he said he will buy us a house......
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Marly Overton
4/30/2010 |
| dear baby_mama_4446
i wish i could say i knew how u felt but i would be lying. its been 3 years since you have posted this and you have had alot of people giving you advice encouragement and some doubts. but the truth is that if you are happy with you decisions in life then thats all that counts and you are not alone in this world there are so many people who are just like you who get pregnant and become mommies so please dont think you are alone
but i jsut ask you one thing never think its a mistake to have a child or you thinks its a mistake of what you did and take it out on your beautiuful daughter if you look around there are alot of woemn marries single whatever who can never have kids or who are to old and regret not taking that chance. your daughter is a part of you and you will have a great connection
look my mum got married at 17 between me and my mum is 20years and i feel like she is my sister best friend because she is so up to date with time and fashion and knows how to have fun and be a mum so was my dad they both had work raised 3 kids. but what im trying to tell you here is that yes you were young but now u are 17 that is 2 and a half years younger than me i am 19 going on to 20 soon i just go t married to the love of my life in january people say im young andf stupid people have doubts why but the truth is beautiful is that this is your life you make of it what you wnat you be happy with what u decide and odnt let anyone tell you differently. i got married because living a life wihtout my husband is somehting that i can not possibly think of right now and i new that marrying him was the best choice i have married for 3 months going onto 4 and i have no doubts and we are know trying for a baby.
if you are happy with your girl and its all you wanted and now 3 years later you dont regret then you are doing really well
but how are you holding up how old is your little munchkin??
where u living are u with the father does she have a father figure in her life it would be nice to hear from you
i am new to this account and i read yor post and it was interesting to hear what people had to say and i thought that you needed something to keep to going that
"in life we all do things things that we are proud or not proud of but at the end of the day if we are ok and happy with what we have done and the results have turned out to be what you want them to be then dont worry life is what you make of it because whn you look back in time and see the path you took you want to smile and be happy"
be happpy and love your daughter like she is all you have and remmeber you are not alone if you read all your posts you willl realise that you are not alone
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xoxo91xoxo
5/4/2010 |
| Firstly, I know this is an old post and I hope that all the young mothers out there are well , whatever their decisions have been regarding their babies.
I am a 35 year old woman and I am 3 months pregnant. I have been trying with my husband, who is 15 years older than me, for 2 years and the baby came at the most unexpected time. It is true what they say, no matter how old you are, or how much life experience you have and goals you have achieved, motherhood is a scary transition and so much will change. I am sooooo excited for this baby and have been waiting many years to be in this reality and ready to face all of the challenges and the countless joys.
There are so many options out there ladies. just imagine if you were born in a society where you had no 'choice'.. no options on how to protect/ take care of yourself and your body???
I have been pro-choice all of my life and was on scholarship at an ivy-league institution and pursuing a dance career at age 19 when I found out I was pregnant after getting off birth control and sleeping one 'last' night with my ex-boyfriend. it was a hard decision to abort the embryo (it wasn't yet a fetus, much less, a baby yet) but it was also one of the best decisions I have ever made. I subsequently graduated with a BA. / Honors, traveled the WORLD as a dancer, been published, started my own design line and met the most amazing people, lived in several countries.. and since the age of 28, learned 3 languages.. I now speak 4 fluently!!! not to mention, met my husband, (while working in Holland) who (unlike the boyfriend at 18) IS the man of my dreams.
I have to be honest and say that although the timing is really difficult for us right now (living between two countries, changing jobs, etc.), it was just such a relief and such an affirmation when I did finally get pregnant a few months ago..they say you never get over an abortion until you have your first child and I definitely agree. a woman's body is so attuned to this natural process.. as if it's our "purpose" here... but I must say, ladies, young ladies, we have SO much to DO and SEE and I can't wait to take the wealth of my experiences and share them with my child now that i am GROWN. I can't wait to share all of this with my child(ren!) --- the pictures of their mother dancing traveling .. and raise them with several languages and a more enhanced view of the world. My parents were able to raise 4 kids with love and utilizing their smarts without a lot of money to give us access to the arts and the best schools ( P.S. Ms. P .. scholarships, and many many free / low cost art programs in this great country of ours produced some of your favorite celebrities, artists and actors -- such as myself, proudly..)!!!
Also, Abstinence is a myth instated by a jaded institution that takes people's faith and distorts it to dis-empower them. let's be realistic ladies..SEX happens. A lot. I used condoms AND spermacide in the 80's... where is the loophole in progress that you all aren't getting enough sex-ed??? plus, there is a huge risk of a life-threatening disease more rampant now than when I was a teenager.. you might have heard of it, HIV??? everyone makes mistakes (i know i did) .. but where o where is the sex-ed???
I just had to post because my heart goes out to the young girls who have to make this tough decision... and to look for advice on the internet means not enough parents (regardless of their age) are doing their jobs!!! support, educate and inform your babies no matter what. we are supposed to be better than the last generations and use all they worked for to reach a higher quality of life!!
THAT SAID... PLEASE USE PROPER SPELLING!!!! you cannot convince anyone that you will be a good mother or citizen of the world if you cannot take the time to spell words out completely or research their proper spelling. Presentation is everything!!!
Baby Dust to all, Namaste.
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gaia vera
6/1/2010 |
| hey i havent gotten pregnant ever yet but i plan on it. not at this age tho. im only 13 but when im older i want a baby boy. ive always wanted a boy names jose. im not racist and im not mexican i just like the name. hope your doing good with your baby. im still a virgin and im surprisingly proud of that. my mom said she would help me out with the baby if i did. she would have me go to school and look after the baby while she works. im sooo happy she wont kill me. but i knew she wouldnt. i cant wait to be at least 19 and i can legally and happily have a child. I cant wait!! (:
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Milyssa Mae
6/2/2010 |
| As to mrs. P said I think that if any girl thinks that they are old enough to have sex then they are old enough to take the responsibilitie to take care of a child. I think that you take that risk every time you have sex. But i do not think that adoption should be an opition to any one they had the baby they need to take care of it i dont care who it is .. I think that you should hold your head high and fight like a girl.. And dont listen to mrs.p shes trying to make u face things in your life that no one should ever have to face... Just be strong write me if u need me even if i dont have ne kids at all im only 15 but my mom gives me the best advice all the time n im just sharen it... N mrs. p i think that if u have nothing nice to say just dnt say shes needn help rte now not someone to put her down..
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Darla_Lynn
6/8/2010 |
| you shouldnt be pregnant at all. ridiculous. i agree with mrs p and anyone/everyone else who does.
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iriselyse
6/14/2010 |
| are u serious?
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risca
6/16/2010 |
| im 14 and im pregnant i do want my baby but im not telling my mum yet because she might make me get rid of it because of school. i dont want to though. what do you think i should do will i cope on my own without its daddy because i want it to have one :/
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happymumtobe
7/11/2010 |
