We can't agree!!!
|My Husband doesn't want another baby. We have one boy and I am desperate to have another child. I DEFINITELY want another one and my husband says he DEFINITELY doesn't. What do we do? Should we just break up? Should I have one without his consent?
|My partner and I have the same problem I want another one now (we already have an almost 2 year old named Hayley) but he says he'd rather wait a few years. What you should do is talk to your partner and come both meet in the middle, is he actually saying no not ever, or no not right now. If you want one now but he'd rather wait 3 years (for example) why not make it 2 years you have a baby (not including actually ttc and then being pregnant for 9 months) don't break up with him, you need to listen to his needs and wants (as well as tell him yours) and if you can meet in the middle that should be ok, see where you guys are in a year or two and then decide weather or not you BOTH want another child, best of luck :)
|In my own personal search for how to deal with wanting another baby, I came across this site. From what I understand the feeling of wanting another baby never ends for women... so here we are. I've got 2 children (boy 3 and girl 2) and I want another baby so badly it physically hurts. My husband says he has no doubt that I could handle 3 but he doesn't think he can. For us it's not a matter of when to have another but if we'll have another. Tell hubby that 2 is easier than 1 (they have eachother to play with, and you've already been through it all with #1 so there aren't many suprises!) Good luck :)
|please don't brake up toher this. take the time and talk about it more, because desiding anytihng. yes or no to haveing more children. Some times its just not right for the both of You to have more children. You can always pray that he will change his mind later on. =)
|I agree with "sushi" about praying about it. It is AMAZING the things that can happen when this is done.-praying only for God's will and the power to carry it out.
NOT TELLING God how it should be and praying for Him to carry that out - lol. (I know -I've been there - lol)
I had a similar expereince. My son was born 6 weeks premature due to H.E.L.L.P syndrome which resulted in mild Cerebral Palsy resulting in developmental delays. My husband was scared to death to take that risk again.
Also - he was one of four and never felt like they got enough attention. Like his parents were worn thin. He was afaid of not being able to give as much of himself to more than 1.
I prayed a LONG time and finally let it go.
We prayed about it together with a prayer group -and then decided to make one last ap. with a high risk Dr. He was reassured about the care I would receive and finally agreed to one more child. We now have two. (1 boy, 1 girl)
I did not have the problems I had in my first pregancy until much later and decided to deliver at 37 weeks. That is it for me. I have accepted my body does not handle pregnancy well at all.
Although I would love another (adoption-this time) -he absoluetly does NOT - and I have truly accepted that. My hands are full- lol.
Good luck to you and your decision -together- with God's help.
|As a mother of 7, I can understand you not wanting to wait too long.
My first child was 5 before the next one came along. Then no.'s 2 - 7 are all between 2 yrs. and 1 l/2 yrs. apart. I do not recommend them being quite this close. I wish I would have had more time with each one as a baby. But I also would not recommend them being anymore than 3 yrs. apart. The oldest one didn't really play together with the younger 6. The oldest one was 7 by the time the 2nd one could really play with her.
|1) How can you have one without his consent: that would involve you having an affair with another man 2) What on earth gives you the idea to break up with him over this? Maybe he's feeling pressure financially and maybe there are problems at work or MAYBE he feels he doesn't have enough time to pursue his own hobbies and interests. I would leave him be for a while and try him again in a few months. I think you shouldn't pressure him into your own selfish needs--sometimes your spouse needs a little breathing space. Give him a chance to be a GUY. That is my opinion.
|I am in same boat! I have 2 girls age 1 & 4. But suffered 2 miscarages in between. I am sooo desperate for another but my hubby says no! I think he is being unfair & feel like he dosnt understand!