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Hello everybody. Hope you are having a great day. And you donít mind I would share some experience. If you are having currently a fertility journey I believe youíll get your success story. Your successful stories are inspiring. Those who just try hard to succeed will definitely join the number of happy parents. I believe in the best ending. Itís our main reward after all. Not only the hard efforts must be rewarded. Even human faith has to give us joy and relief. Iíd love to share my recent observation. I continue texting with the couple. They are from country where surrogacy and egg donation procedure are banned by the law. Itís so common for infertile people. Most of us have to leave home for seeking an opportunity to succeed. It was quite tough to realize what they were trough. I donít know how many years ago they started planning their pregnancy. Let it be many years ago. As well as all they tried it naturally. Actually nothing happened. It lasted for a few years. Their expected step was to apply for IVF. They dealt with pretty expensive and popular clinic in the US. The first round was failed. This is a regular thing. People seldom get it from a very first try. Only third attempt was really successful. Pregnancy test confirmed she was pregnant. It was a great achievement for them. Really cool! Of course, they were incredibly happy. Started doing different preparations. They bought clothes, crib, stroller and many other things beforehand. It was the fact. They couldnít expect quietly. They were eager to make all ready before their baby arrives. She was fond of beautifying baby room. She liked all signs of her first pregnancy. It was a dream gifted to them. They also built a playground in front of their house. There was so much energy unspent in their hearts. It was so lovely. I guess they could forget all those years of treatment. They saved only best memory. It seemed things were going properly. I believe it was really so. Her pregnancy had been going well as it was said. They figured out it must be a girl. They were happy to know it. Most of clothes were pink. The curtains in the room were also pink. Her husband was a sailor. He even began looking for the job on the land. He wanted to be near his family all the time. One day she was driving her car. By the way it was after she had her ultrasound check. Such a good day. Well, she was driving not so fast. Suddenly the dog got under the wheels. She wanted to avoid running it over. The car she was in had got crashed against the concrete wall. No reason, the airbags didnít work out. She had to sue the car company. She was seriously damaged. She got a head trauma, injuries to the chest and abdomen. As you could understand she lost her baby. She lost much blood. The doctors have given her a blood transfusion. Her uterus was injured as well as her belly. We never know what it might be. It was so shocking to know. I was feeling so sorry and not able to express my sympathy. Itís not the end of the story. actually it was really a hard time. The first year after it they couldnít plan anything. She underwent four surgeries. One of them was a uterus removal. Her life totally changed. Nobody could say it was her fault. If she only knew it sheíd never turn to the right. the terrible things happened one by one. 1 Megggy
8/15/2018
We suddenly met when we were patients of our clinic. She came across as a very polite and confident woman. I liked the way she shared her experience with other people. It wasn't possible to recognize any trace left in her eyes after that accident. Her loss perhaps left a deep hole in her soul. She was skillful enough to conceal it from others. Donít have purpose to be a big psychologist. Iíll never know what was hidden in her heart. Itís too private. She was a brave one. Itís undiscussable statement. They found strength to move on. It deserves a high respect. They were clients of one clinic dealing with surrogacy. Their surrogate gave birth a few months ago. You may imagine it was a huge breakthrough for both of them after loss. They didnít let themselves fall in depression. This couple has shown a good example. Many of us could follow it. Also it was a problem when they started. Nobody knew why it happened. Her husband couldnít take good sperm sample. They thought it was because of a big stress. He was the one who used to hide his emotions. Whole situation made a pressure on him. He had to remain calm and lead them out from the grief they were in. Perhaps it could be too devastating challenge to live in that house having a baby room without having a baby. I understand how really hard it was. Preparing before their babyís birth, they bought a lot of new goods. They were great supporters to each other. It saved them from the total sadness. I donít know whether they had enough support. Sometimes we have to cope with things alone. For some of us it means perhaps unsolvable issue. We always need some support and care to keep on struggling. I feel it from inside out. Itís my story too. They had quite a difficult journey. Their surrogate had a risk of premature delivery. Happily, everything was okay. She caught cold. The doctors were afraid it could harm baby. these was a very cold winter. Actually that made all of them worry a lot. They offered their help. They wanted to help in any case. The clinic they were with monitored their surrogates well. They said they had everything necessary. It was true. She gave birth with help of C-section. The baby felt all right. Surgery was conducted without complications. They have got a baby girl. Her weight and growth were within normal parameters. I guess it was a true happiness. I canít tell everything. However, they faced with problems in the final stage. Their paperwork lasted a bit longer than all expected. I want to admit. Before seemed I couldnít be so much sincerely happy for someoneís success. I considered it like main disadvantage. This story took my negative feature away. I felt very happy. and that was absolutely reasonable. I hate infertility. It changes lives of kind people. It can make us ill and selfish. However, I noticed it helped us sometimes to become more sensitive. It was a day they came back home. The return of glory and hope. It was a time of new decisions. The life which seemed far from them became their reality. there will not be a story of disappointment. It brought them happiness. Itís important. None of them regret what they went through. I have a huge respect to their couple. I want everyone who had losses to look at their example. We all have enough strength to change our life. Today we have an opportunity to run our own lives. Surely, sometimes it costs much money. In any case we pay something for our decision. Even our weakness and laziness sometimes cost too much. And then weíve got to blame only ourselves. we are owners of this chance. Why am I telling this? Maybe because I knew they would not have sufficient time for sharing this story. they really donít have time for chatting now. A newborn requires much time from parents. Her husband usually works hard to make their life even better than itís now. Itís a good family and they are wonderful parents. I decided to tell their story. She wanted to share it. I know for sure. In addition, they maintain their relationship with surrogate. Their general attitude to this woman was essential for me. I met different people having different view. Sometimes people have weird prejudges. They sometimes say such offending and reckless things. Thatís not right absolutely. I heard some people consider surrogacy as exploitation of human body. Sometimes they state itís even worse. I never had such opinion. I knew those who didnít want to see their surrogate. It was their right. I canít judge them for it. This couple is still contacting their surrogate mother. As they said it is a very warm connection. It brings them much goodness. They are just women wanting to help their families. Sometimes they canít find a good work within the country they live in. itís the way to have more money. I understand their motives. Also itís a perfect occasion to save someoneís dream. Donít you think so? My respect to surrogates is really huge. I justify all their aims. The main meaning of such engagement is giving new birth. Itís priceless for me. I call those whoís starting their surrogacy journey. People, letís be politer and supportive to each other. Weíre obliged to respond with kindness to those who brings us so much joy. Surrogacy is a great experience. Itís a trial for our feelings and patience. Such journey can test our strength. Weíll be different after all. I hope these changes turn for the better. Beg your pardon for such a long introduction. I wanted to put my story in words accurately. I actually missed some moments. If it was a story of mine, I would be focusing on details. Unfortunately, I wasnít able to find out more. I guess this story let us know nothing is lost and we are to be happy. Honestly, I follow this naÔve judgement. We were born to be happy. Weíll get this happiness eventually, if weíre trying hard and not giving up. Iím sending you lots of my love and hope! This story was nice enough, isnít it? I believe you werenít bored. You arenít obliged to like it. However, youíll not be indifferent for sure. I wish you all the best. Letís remain strong. 2 Megggy
8/15/2018
hg 3 Daisy
8/20/2018
Iím shocked to hear it. Hello! All that you told was really tough to experience. Especially a poor ill girl couldnít cope with it well. Iím afraid it would kill me. Too many trials for one person. I can agree IVF is seldom helpful during the first try. Donít know why this statistic exists. Sometimes people put too much expectations and invest too much strength into this first try. But result or absence of it destroys their hope. We meet such people when we attend fertility clinics. I express my great respect and sympathy. Hope one day all will be good. Itís really cool that you donít avoid surrogacy as one of the best methods. You have a purpose and follow it strictly. Keep on your way. My best wishes and everything! 4 Daymyday
8/29/2018

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