ending of my infertility history. cutting through the surrogacy process

ending of my infertility history. cutting through the surrogacy process

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ending of my infertility history. cutting through the surrogacy process
Hello to everybody! Iím new here. No matter I guess itís just my introduction. Iím infertile. Iíve been suffering from it for 7 years. I hope this must be one of the last threads I created. After a long-lasting process I eventually became a mother. It happened a month ago. Itís fantastic and unbelievable event in my life. Perhaps it was a great event in lives of my relatives too. They were tired of seeing me broken and exhausted. They lost their lovely Julia since I found out I was infertile. I myself do not remember when I was in good disposition. My medical history was just a chain of failures. Most of you know and can imagine what Iím talking about. My husband and I were nearly to divorce. if you are long time in struggle you know how it affects relationships. The treatment needs more and more money over and over. We were almost empty. My husband even borrowed cash to help us to conceive. Taking into account that he is completely fertile it was a huge sacrifice from him. I canít even express how highly I appreciate this contribution. He was able to find a new wife. Sheíd have given birth to his children. No, he didnít leave me alone. It was a deed of a real hero. What do you think? I was awful wife. I often started quarrels. Itís not my main feature of character. The hormones made me be such a . As well disappointment was strong. It was taking my confidence away. I understood I wouldnít be parent in this year. I didnít hope to be parent in the next year. My faith got weak. I was really depressed. Want to say thank to my surrounding. They believed in my progress. Itís a pleasure to be a member of such wonderful family. My cousin is gorgeous. Sheís a young girl but now she knows everything about infertility treatment. She supported me all the time. I underwent 6 IVF cycles. It actually didnít bring result. I donít understand how such a long process could fit in one sentence. It took years to try all of this. It took much strength. I was about to stop it because I didnít feel alive at all. One day I forgot why I was engaged in that. Can you imagine? I just lost the understanding of order of events. Perhaps that was driving me crazy. I was freaking out. If my man left me then Iíd be dead now. Iím sure. Now Iím feeling fine. Iím trying to keep control over emotions. The news of my babiesí arrival was more than just exciting. It was the best news Iíve ever received. Itís real joy. We couldnít conceive naturally. We always tried hard to achieve it. Itís my problem first of all. My husband is a healthy man. I failed 6 IVF rounds. It was devastating indeed. I was frustrated. I couldnít move on any longer. It seemed I was just dying and it was the end. Taking a look around I noticed nothing was lost. I pulled myself together. My family needed me alive and strong. Thatís how I said to my husband. Letís have money for surrogacy! We did it. what more could I add? 1 Durbanteam
7/30/2018
Amazing! I swear thatís truly awesome. Iíd love to experience such strong feelings. Only god knows how you are happy now. Could you more tell us about the journey? Where and what was it? I have really a rare liver disorder. My bodyís toxins poison my fetus. I was pregnant thrice. It always ends quickly and with the same result. I was even suggested to go to the medical researching hospital somewhere in Orlando. We still seek for good option. I was excited to read your post. Thank you for that inspiration. I imagined how it would be perfect to be a mother right now. Iím 35 years old. Guess itís an ideal age of being a mother. I hope I wonít waste much time. Life is running out so fast. Time is like a viper coupe. I wouldnít like to face my childless existence in 50. You were right. Infertile life may affect all the sides of human being. Disappointment and frustration follow us. I know surrogacy exists as a helper next to me. It calms me down. I donít know what I would do without it. Pleasure to find out somebody became parent after many years of struggling. It inspires to keep on going forward. Happiness canít belong to one, its part always touches my heart. How are your twins doing now? You surely prepared beforehand. Your family was described as a wonderful environment for bringing up children. My husband wants to be a daddy so much. I appreciate his desire. Itís so cute when male is so tender in thinking about our babies. I feel support and protection. Iím not in despair. I really believe my happy days are coming. Did you apply for egg donation? I hope you were treated well. It was a smooth process. Itís definitely more pleasant to turn back home without complaints. Iíll be looking forward to your response. Hope youíll answer quickly. 2 Annakonda
7/30/2018
Hi! Thank you a lot for your kind words. I said it would be my last thread because I will be dedicated to my children. I will visit on internet to only figure out which formula is better and something. I decided to not spend too much time on forums. They were always assisting me when I needed. Iím grateful to people helping me. I consider fertility forums as a diary. I shared my worst doubts and concerns. It helped to fight sadness. I can admit people from forums saved me from deep depression. Itís not fair I should keep my news open. Itíll be fair to give information on my life after surrogacy. Someone could find out much helpful details. Maybe I donít know so far. If it doesnít take too much time Iíll certainly be here on other forums. I like chatting. Iím still in Ukraine. We havenít returned yet. Our documents are in preparation. Itís long and stressful process. As well as surrogacy is. I donít understand those who came back home with complaints. As you said I wouldnít be like them. We faced different inconveniences during the program. Itís unavoidable. There are too many clients. Too many things and arrangements have to be performed. They manage a big piece of work. it must be respected and understandable. When we had troubles the clinic assisted us how to solve it. Or they just fixed it by themselves. I can imagine how many troubles were addressed before we even noticed them. We hadnít to seek flat. Our driver is daily beside when itís necessary. We didnít have issues with understanding. The clinic provided us with interpreter. While my children are here they gave us a pediatrician. I feel much calmer because this doctor attends us frequently. My children are the sweetest! We have got a girl and a boy. Itís just beyond my dreams. Iím not walking around the room. Iím just floating like a bird. I donít feel weight at all. Yes, we want to get to home as soon as possible. But when I look at my sweet children I understand no matter where we are. We just have to be beside them. That is our only task. No matter how long the paperwork will be. No matter which review Iíll be going to leave on here after all. The main thing we should be care for is our newborns. You understand me. Our journey wasnít actually smooth. Yes, I had to use egg donation. We couldnít proceed with my own ones twice. It was hard. Happily, they have such a fabulous egg storage. I was pleased to know it. So, we tried with donor eggs and it worked out. I donít know what to suggest. My program was in Ukraine. We chose it from others. If you arenít aware Ukraine is a very popular fertility destination now. I hope they will be continuing their practice. A lot of childless couples changed their status here. Youíll obviously find suitable conditions in this country. Iím sure surrogacy in Ukraine is safe and effective. Therefore, itís completely legal and allowed by the law. We had doubts choosing between three clinics. We listed to people all the time. I used to trust people and itís my main strategy. I was disappointed because of my response to IVF treatment. We couldnít get eggs with high quality. As well I felt very ill after procedure. As for your disease Iím not familiar to it. Itís perhaps really rare. I feel sorry for that you have to go through it. If we want to have children, we have to cope with everything. Sometimes only sacrifice is the way to become happy. I learnt it from my own experience. Dealing with infertility during these years I got stronger and rough. Maybe something got killed inside me. However, all the hidden and kindest sides of my personality were reborn due to my childrenís arrival. I thought I knew what that meant to be a mother. In fact, it was absolutely a new knowledge. Iím so happy and grateful. When do you intend to start your journey? Did you choose a clinic or reproductive center? Anyway I wish you only the best and safest experience. 3 Durbanteam
7/30/2018
I guess it was a proper decision. You tortured yourself having a lot of IVF. You said it affected you badly. Itís too late to discuss. You succeeded through surrogacy. And that is essential. Now you have much plans and ideas. There are lots of urgent things you have to arrange. Children need care and comfort. Are your relatives waiting for your return? Iím happy for your sweet family. I suppose all will be awesome. By the way, why did you choose Ukraine? How did you find it? Itíll be intriguing to know. 4 Annakonda
7/31/2018
Of course itíll be interesting to recollect from memory. Iím in this field for too long. I had to experience many different emotions and event. Seems I always knew about best world clinics. In fact, it isnít so. I was infertile. Perhaps 3 IVF cycles were left behind. I actually suffered from disappointment. I couldnít understand why I was such a loser. As I remember I was always protecting surrogate mothers. I was a fighter for their rights and other. Sometimes society behaves weird and unfair towards these ladies. If they could only know how I appreciate my surrogateís contribution. As a rule, bad talks are generated by those who werenít ever involved in such things. Itís unreachable for their mind and heart. One day I met a man. We began talking about surrogates. It was a conversation embracing different topics. We touched such themes as clinics abroad. Different things were discussed. Interesting thing is that he was a gynecologist. He was from Norway. And his lovely wife was also infertile. She had congenital reproductive disorder. They took part in surrogacy journey in Ukraine. His authority and view on such stuff left fat trace in my conciseness. Since that meeting I remembered Ukraine is something approved by the Norwegian specialist. It impressed me. Then I was ready to explore this destination more thoroughly. It wasnít surprising that I had some plans on that country. In addition, I received a lot of amazing reviews written by people who were there. It compared them to bad ones. Because in such serious business as surrogacy there canít be just one good attitude. This mix made me confident. I was going to try in Ukraine. My husband didnít find reasonable arguments to persuade me. Ukraine didnít disappoint me. I canít say Iím in love with this land. I had no spare time for having fun there. In medical aspect this is worth coming. I recommend it. No doubts, you can find what youíll be hating. Itís understandable. We always hate something. Anyway there are many gorgeous options to try. 5 Durbanteam
7/31/2018
My relatives are fabulous. They are just incredibly caring. Iím tired of sending them photos. I do it every day. Weíve got quite a big family. And they always ask me to take and send new photos of our newborns. Iím afraid they will strangle our babies in embraces and kisses. We prepared a baby room. We have already sent maybe 10 orders how to redecorate it. They are good guys. I actually love all what they do for us. Iím sure our children will be surrounded by love. The babies were born healthy. Our surrogate felt all right when we met her. we were glad to meet her. Sheís a strong and beautiful woman. She has her own children. They are also boy and girl. Weíre going to invite her to have a trip to us. Itíll be terrific even. She said she had not ever been abroad. I believe sheíll be pleased to spend few weeks in our big house. I love her. She gave us something more than regular service. I couldnít have children on my own. Actually itís cool to have such an opportunity. Iíll be doing all my best to maintain our relations. Iíll be doing it if only she doesnít mind. I respect the right of privacy. Itís a sacred right for everyone. We were told if we didnít want to get acquainted with our surrogacy we didnít have to meet her in person. I said no! weíre looking forward to meeting her. That was exciting. First 10 minutes I was just crying and my moth was shut. I had no idea how to start expressing my gratitude. She was also shy and confused. I donít remember how we break that spell. We were talking during an hour maybe. I want to say thank to our translators. They made all things easier. They were really helpful. Itís another reason for you to not be afraid. Youíll be surrounded by interpreters. If you had any issue they would work with it. 6 Durbanteam
7/31/2018
Thank you very much for your openness and frankness. I found out much interesting things. As you said I also heard about Ukraine both good and bad. Itís such a controversial choice. Iíll keep thinking in that direction. It would be so magically to be in your shoes. I wish you to have a safe rest of journey. Enjoy you time with your sweet babies. Itís a separate page in your familyís history. Itíd be wonderfully if you paint it in bright colors. Iím sure you donít have to quit being on forums. You can share much goodness with people. Your story was inspiring. Good luck! And accept my sincere congratulations! 7 Annakonda
7/31/2018

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ending of my infertility history. cutting through the surrogacy process