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My friend needs an advice
Hello, forum visitors. You know, my friend needs your help. Just an advice, nothing more. She is 40, and she cannot get pregnant. She turned to IVF. Unfortunately, it was a failure. Now she is frustrated. She doesnít know what to do. She really wants to be a mother, but because of this failure she hesitates. She is not sure that she may continue. She is just afraid that the next attempt will not be successful too. She is married and has a wonderful husband. He is always with her. He says, that he is ready to try again. He wants to continue trying to make his family full. But his wife canít get herself together. So, maybe somebody was in the same situation? Or maybe somebody have heard about such stories and knows what to do. Please help. Any advice will be useful. I donít know how to encourage my friend. I know that I need support her, but I donít know how to do it better. As far as I know IVF works in 90%. And failures are only in the other 10%. Unfortunately, my friend wasnít lucky. But I am sure, that she will able to become a mother. Now I want her to be more confident in herself. How I canít achieve it? Thanks for any advice. Hope, that my friend will be fine. 1 Julia_Brown
11/10/2017
Hello, Julia! You know, I turned to IVF 2 years ago, when I was 42. Now I am a happy mother of a completely healthy child. I am so glad that, because my husband and I can have a full family. I got pregnant after the first try. But I know, that sometimes there may be several unsuccessful attempts. Sometimes it is connected with the doctors, sometimes with the womanís health. In such situations it is important not to give up. Your friend shouldnít worry and continue trying. Also, you know, maybe she needs to consult some other doctors. Sometimes it is really help. Now she is in a situation, when support is really needed. She should try one more time only if she is ready for it. In such situation most of the women are very disappointed, they donít believe in a success any more. So, she needs to feel that you are not alone. If her family with her, encourages her, it is great. She should be strong. It is not the right time to hesitate. If she wants to become a mother, she needs to believe in herself, in doctors. If so, everything will be great. Optimistic mood is really important. She should remember about it. She needs to decide whether she really wants to continue and has enough power. Now she needs to calm down and forget about failures. I now it is difficult, but it is necessary. She needs to understand that her attitude to it is the most important thing. Hope that she will be fine. I am sure she will be able to become a great mother. Wish you and your friend good luck. God bless you! 2 Annette
11/10/2017
Thank you, Annette! Thanks for the quick answer. This information is really important for me. Of course you are right. It is very responsible and serious step. My friend should think carefully. You know she is going to visit one of the clinics next month. The doctors there are good, as far as I know. The conditions are great too. She will need to pass some tests. But her husband wants to visit two or three more clinics. He wants to compare them and decide which of them is better. He decided to turn to clinics in different countries. He has heard lots of information about them. People say, that they are pretty good. Their reputation is very high. They are considered to be the best in the world. By the way, Julia, you say that you got pregnant from the first attempt. It is really great. I know that it depends on doctors and your health. Say, what clinic did you choose? What country did you turn to? Why did you make this decision? Is the clinic really good? Maybe I need to visit it too, but I am not confident. I know that IVF programs are all the same in different clinics, so they are going to pass tests in different clinics. Now they try to collect as much information as they can about different clinics in the world. I want to do all my best to support my friend so this period is the most important. So, maybe you can tell me a little about the clinic you turn to? Are the doctors good? And what about the conditions? Was it expensive? Hope you will help me. 3 Julia_Brown
11/10/2017
You are welcome! I think I really can help you. First of all, I want to say, that the clinic I turned to chose my spouse. Before that we turned to three more clinics. But you know I didnít really like them. They are pretty good, the specialists are great. But their prices were pretty high too. At that time we were thinking about two of these three clinics. But them a friend of my husband told us one story. His sister had the same problem as we are. This woman turned to a Ukrainian clinic. She became a mother after the first attempt. He said, that she was completely satisfied with everything about this clinic. So my spouse said that we should try to turn to it too. We were thinking about it for some time and decided to try. We came to Ukraine and find the clinic BioTexCom. When were came there, we questioned the doctors about all the information we needed to know. We find out that the clinic not so many years ago. But now it is considered to be one of the best. The percentage of success is very high. So I pass some tests. After that the specialists told me that I the results are very good and we can try to begin the process. I told to my husband. He supported me and said that this clinic much better than three others. You wanted to know whether doctors are good. So I may say that they are true specialists. They are very friendly and always ready to help. The conditions are good enough too. As for the prices, I may say that they are not so high as in the other clinics. IVF is pretty expensive procedure, but some clinics make it even more expensive. I think that your friend may turn to it and compare to the others. Maybe she will like it more, maybe not. It will be only her decision. But if you ask me whether I recommend this clinic, my answer will be positive. 4 Annette
11/10/2017
Thank you very much! I am glad to get any help and advice! You really helped me. I am sure my friend should think about this clinic. You know, I have heard about it. But up to now I wasnít confident whether it is really good. Thanks for the useful information. I think it would help not only my friend. It will be important for the other women that are looking for a good clinic. I think that my friend will visit it. I think that it is important to talk to doctors of all the clinics they have chosen. Maybe they really will find out that the clinic you told me about is much better. But maybe not. It is very important for them to know that I will work with the true specialists. My friend doesnít want to turn to a clinic where doctors are not experienced. This may affect the outcome. Mothering is my friendsí dream from the young age. Her spouse is ready for everything to make it come true. I want everything to be fine. Hope that she will be able to make her spouse happy soon. He wants to be a parent too. I believe that good specialists can help them. They are ready to trust the doctors. But I want to make sure that they really know what they do. I think that it is important for every lady who turns to IVF. Nobody wants to waste money and get no result. So, thank you, Julia! Hope, your family and you will be happy. God bless you! Wish you lotís of happiness! 5 Julia_Brown
11/10/2017
Hi everyone! I hope everyone is doing great and I hope that I am also treated as a family here as other women. My friend recommended me this forum as she knows that I was very stressed and want to just spit out every depressing thing in my mind. I couldnít do so with my family and friends because I was very upset and shy. i was thinking for a long time to share my problem via this forum. i know all of you know how it is important to have a complete family. i was in deep sorrow because of having no children after marriage. I could not have been able to recover myself from my grief and this upset condition if my husband had not supported from the time I was diagnosed that i can't be a mother. he took me to different doctors to cure the problems. actually i had some serious infections in my body which created many hurdles to for me to give birth to a baby. my husband truly loves me a lot and always tries to take good care of me. I feel very luck on this side. He has never said something harsh to me related to my disease or about not being able to have babies. My life is his first priority. Well I am looking for the surrogacy procedure. I hope I get to make a decision soon. Earlier I was thinking of adaptation but my husband refused it. I hope he does not refuse for surrogacy as it is a safe procedure to have your own children. i would highly recommend you BioTexCom. 6 talinda4
12/31/2017
My mane is Cristina. I am 31 years old. My colleague advised me to join this forum. she also found it very useful at the time when she was also facing problem related to infertility. Because she had some major disease in her body. She now has a beautiful baby with the help of surrogacy. She has gone through this process with the help of ďBioTexComĒ. And now she is living a healthy life as well. She suggested me to contact that clinic and tell them your problem.i searched for their website and contact them. The way team BioTexCom treated was much appreciated. I finalized my decision and went for surrogacy. Now I have a complete and healthy family. I would definitely suggest you to cure your problem by following their procedure. Much love. 7 cristina4
1/1/2018
Hi there. How are you? I am so sorry to read about your friendís situation. This is such a sad thing. One cannot get the thing they desired the most. Look; make sure your friend doesnít harm herself by doing something reckless in her desperation. You need to take care of her like a baby. She needs all the time and affection of everyone. I am sure you guys are already taking good care of her; but she needs it more. Donít leave her alone in home. Not for a minute as well. She is in depression. This is dangerous. Now coming on your post; research had shown that an ďIVFĒ treatment has less than 40% of success rare in women older than 34. This being said; it was doom to be a failure. I donít know the clinic she had opted didnít tell her about this. They are suppose to tell her the success and failure rates at all cost. Her life was on the line, this is ignorant. I was diagnosed PCOS and I opted for this treatment from ďBioTexComĒ. They were 100% sure that it is going to be successful yet they told me that anything can happen. I have to be careful. Such clinics should be locked own at once who didnít even took the health of their patients plus their success rate of the treatment in consideration. I advise you to take her to a good doctor and get her checked up again. I am attaching a link of the clinic I had undergone. You can look at it as well. In her case; Surrogacy is best. Opt for it. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA. Nancy!! 8 Nancy
1/21/2018

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