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Good day ladies. I just joined the forum and I am glad to see so many supportive and welcoming people. I am a single mom of an adopted baby boy who is 7 years old. His friends call me "wheelchair mama". I got used to the fact that I am in a wheelchair for 9 years. Recently an incident has struck me really badly. An old friend proposed me to marriage. I am confused. I am happy as a single mother. I don't know how new life will be. Staying single for so long when I had given up hopes on everything else has changed me a lot. I am just scared or what I don't know. I worked very hard all my life. I don't know what exactly am I scared of. 1 Natasha80
10/27/2017
Hi Natasha. First of all, I would like to say that I think you are very strong. it isn't easy being a single mother. Especially when you are in a wheelchair. Now coming back to the issue at hand. I can understand your hesitation. You are comfortable with your current situation. Adapting to change can be hard. It is important to remember though that sometimes change is just what we need. When your boy grows up, he will want a father figure to look up to. Your friend like you mentioned is an old one. So, he has known you for quite a long time. He proposed despite knowing all that can be discovered in a long-term friendship. This shows his sincerity. I would suggest you give the matter some serious thought and then decide. Be open to change, but also take into account all the pros and cons. 2 iqajezee
10/31/2017
Natasha, you should consider yourself lucky. Chivalry is a fading trait in this world. Men aren't happy with anything less than perfect. In such times finding someone who proposes to you despite everything is priceless. He knows you are confined to a wheelchair. Also, that you are a single mother. This hasn't let it stop him. Also, he is an old friend, like you said. This means you are both comfortable with each other. I would suggest give it a good thought. At the very least commend him for his bravery. He at least attempted to get out of the friend zone. I hope you make the right decision. For all three of you. You, your son and your friend. 3 kagirelle
10/31/2017
Hey Natasha. I understand your hesitancy. It is totally natural. Despite this, it is important to bear in mind that change is often a good thing. You are comfortable in your current life. Which is why the thought of changing it scares you, but look on the bright side. Your friend proposed to you despite knowing about your condition. That means he is sincere. As a single mom, there will be many challenges in the future. Having a supportive figure in your life can make all the difference. I would suggest that you give the proposal a good thought. Weigh out the pros and cons. Only then can you make a proper decision. I wish you good luck. I hope whatever decision you make is the right one for you and your son. Looking forward to hearing about what you decide. 4 deffyttippu
10/31/2017
Hi. Your son's friends sure are creative. Wheelchair mama makes you sound like you have superpowers or something. Moving on to the issue at hand. Forums like these are a great way to get help from others. It is astounding how many people have similar experiences like ours. Forums like these connect us to such people. This helps us learn from their experiences. In your case, I would say that don't think of this proposal negatively. In fact, I think it is really brave of your friend to say it. That is just the type of man you should have your son looking up to. Someone who looks past people's physical imperfections. Being a single mother is great because of the freedom. Despite that, it can get hard at times. Think of whether sharing the responsibilities is a good enough incentive or not. 5 orreffaddapo
10/31/2017
Welcome strong mama. You are an inspiration to mums like us. You are an Iron Lady. And we are proud to have you on the forum. And there is no need to give up hope. Trust God!! Life is full of surprises they can be good or bad. But staying strong and trusting your gut is vital. You are the role model for your son. And you have to cross all the hurdles with head up high! However starting a new phase of life can be nerve wrecking. And it's a part of life. As sooner or later in life, you need an emotional and physical companion. With whom you can share your good and bad moments in life. However, your son is your first priority. So take your time before taking any decision. As it's not only about you but your son. Just go for the moment and relax. More power to you!! 6 jawemoty
10/31/2017
Hello, Natasha, I think you should be called by the name of “strong mama” instead of “wheelchair mama”. I can understand how hard it can be to be a single parent. We have always heard that there is always a day after a night. This means that hard time is not for forever. It will end and happy moments will come in. All you need to do is to stay strong and courageous to fight against those hard times and to wait for a good time. You have been already doing it for nine long years. According to my opinion, your friend is really an amazing person. Even after knowing about your condition and your adopted son, he is proposing you. There are definitely guts in him. We cannot doubt his sincerity. As you are living on your own for a long time, so it will be hard for you to accept the change. However, I think positive changes should be accepted as soon as possible. I am not saying you to make a quick decision and marry him. Take your time, think and then make a decision. However, I feel like that he is a right person to get married to. 7 upykawok
10/31/2017
Hello, Natasha, I am really surprised to know that you have been so courageous for so long. I would have never survived if I were in your situation. I really feel bad to know that you are in a wheelchair for such a long time. Many questions are arising in my mind after reading your story. If you don’t mind, can I ask where your husband is? Did he die or did he leave you? If he left you then what was the reason for leaving? You are living alone for a long time. Why don’t you think of that proposal? Is your friend a nice person? Will he accept your adopted son? If yes, then I don’t think there is something wrong in getting married to him. There is no need to be sacred, my dear. I think if you will marry him, you will get a support. Just talk to him about your adopted son before you take any decision. Based on his reply, you can decide what to do or not. I wish you best of luck. 8 hyppicafev
10/31/2017
"Hey, love, I m sorry to hear about your accident. With the new proposal thing, I'd advise to not overthink it. If you like the man and know that he will support you through thick and thin then go for it as I hope it can really change your life (in a good way of course). It's also good to ask him what he thinks of your child because your 9 years old will be living with you, it's important that there's an established understanding. I'm not sure what age are you but you and your husband, if willing, can also think of having another baby, either naturally or in case there's an issue, artificially (via surrogacy). I understand that you are now accustomed to being alone and afraid of any new change, but honey this is how it is: when we are disappointed and have gone through hell, nature shows us signs that we are not alone and that there is a greater power, no matter what you call it, which always keeps looking for us. Wish you all the happiness in the world :)" 9 lenadufa
10/31/2017
"Hi, If you think he will take full responsibility for you and your son, I'd advise going with the flow. You have already had a hard life so far, odds are greatly in your favor. The idea that someone is there protecting you, a real man, is so comforting. It makes you feel safe. A companion to grow old with... I wish you get this feeling too once you marry this guy and may he makes you forget your sad story and that you are able to start writing a new book of your life :) Frankly, you know what I consider the dumbest thing the writers have ever written... well, I'll tell you about it... it's that ""the best way to avoid disappointment is to not expect anything from anyone"". Stupid. Expectations come naturally and there's no reason for trying to stop expecting things. I know sometimes they don't come true, but so what... we weep, we cry and then what? We get normal... we have to get normal and start our life all over again. Stay positive, expect more, be happy!" 10 mubippery
10/31/2017
Oh! Natasha Darling, I really can relate your insecurity, I mean the way you're feeling right now. Well, I wish I could give you a hug right now. Well, listen! Darling, you deserve better than this. It's your opportunity to avail. You're lucky to have someone to accept you in life. People like us don't get second chances. You son deserves and needs a father. You shouldn't let your fear take this from you. You should really go for this; it will help you in making a family life for you and your son again. Leave all the crap which is pulling you from not going for this opportunity. I really wish you a better and happy life with that guy. I hope you will become a family soon; take it for you and your son. :) 11 kafynnujo
10/31/2017
Oh, honey. I really wish to hug you now. Your life is such on a turning point. I think you shouldn't get these negative thoughts binding you. You should take all of it. You deserve far better. Your child deserves a father, that friend of yours is really an amazing person to offer you that. I think you should go for it blindly without getting into old deep . Whatever happened; forget it! It's your past think for future and make it great! If not for you; so for your child. From my perspective, you should say yes! I really wish you luck and a better hope for a new life. Please keep me update on it. I really wanna listen to the good news soon :) 12 rugeppuddaz
10/31/2017

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