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Hello people. I hope everyone is enjoying a healthy and happy life. There was a time in my life also when I led a happy and healthy life. But things changed so quickly that I couldnít understand whatís happening until my doctor is told me about my heart disease. I was like, oh God please have mercy on me! I was not worried about my disease. The thing that made me upset and worried was that now I cannot get pregnant until these disease goes away from my body. I told this to my whole family and my husband, and they were also very shocked. They also couldnít believe because no other women in my family ever had this disease. I think I am the cursed one. I am really broken from inside. I cannot figure out anything about my life. Itís like everything is shattered in to pieces. But there is one positive thing in all this situation that my husband has always been with me. Its 3 years now, and he still loves me the same as he did in the early times. Last month I asked my doctor to suggest me some other way of having a baby because this fatal heart disease will take too long to get cured. She suggested me to go for surrogacy. I discussed this matter with my family, and they are against this because they think of it as an unnatural process which is a taboo for them. I am really stuck with this decision. I donít know what to do. As anyone ever encountered such a situation, then please give me a solution to it. I am very eager to have a baby but my family is not agreeing on my decision. People kindly help me with this. Much love. 1 Jasmine.Flower
10/18/2017
Hi Jasmine Flower, I am doing fine. How are you doing? I really felt sad after reading your story. I wish we were able to change the things the way we want. God will definitely have mercy on you. I know it will take long to recover from this heart disease. However, this does not mean that you cannot become a mother. Surrogacy is definitely a way out. Through surrogacy, you will have your own baby. As you cannot carry your baby due to your disease, a surrogate mother will be doing this for you. Tell your family that it is not unnatural way at all. They will use your eggs and your husbandís sperms. They will put the embryo in the surrogate mother and this way you will have your baby. Try to talk to your husband about this. I am sure he will agree to go for surrogacy. 2 Spencer5715
10/18/2017
Hi Jasmine. Seems you are as delicate as your name. Life will not be fair every time dear. You need to learn to fight. You are fighting a heart disease that shows you are brave. Similarly, to have family you should have your spirits high first of all. I have one of my kid naturally but other kid through surrogacy. It wasn't easy with it either. Let me tell you though its very natural process. Only the difference is that you are not bearing the child but a surrogate is doing it for you. The surrogate will go through same pain and fatigue biological mother goes through. So it is just a misconception that it is artificial birth. If you are thinking to have children with this procedure still you need to make up your mind. Sometimes it takes several attempts for stimulation, then finding a surrogate is also a lengthy process might take up to 3 months to find a matching surrogate mother. All of this needs patience and strength to handle the pressure. First convince your husband, rest of the things will fall on their places. Take this decision with a composed mind, don't be impulsive. May things get easier for you. 3 Nicole Adams
10/18/2017
I understand your dilemma. Many people tend to find it hard to wrap their heads around the concept of surrogacy. But in my opinion, it is a wonderful solution for women like you and me. I speak from experience. I opted for surrogacy two years ago. I gave some tests in a clinic They let me choose the surrogate mother and gave me many other options too. Then after stimulation and fertilization, the process was underway. A few short months later, I was blessed with a baby girl I can call my own. 4 Stacy
10/18/2017
Hey Jasmine, hope you are doing well. Life can be unpredictable. You never know what the future holds for you. However, you have to be firm and thankful to God. My prayers are with you that may God provide you with health and may grant your wish of having your own children. For this surrogacy is the only option, my dear. Because at this stage of your disease, you can't risk your life. If your husband is with you, then you should consider this option seriously. In the end, it's your decision, not your family's. 5 jawemoty
10/31/2017
Hello Jasmine Flower, do not curse yourself, my dear, as it was not under your control. Your life has not ended because of this disease. You have to be courageous and things will be fine. It is amazing to hear that your husband has always been your support. What is your husbandís opinion about surrogacy? Is he agreeing? I think you should try to convince your family by telling them that the baby will belong to you and your husband genetically. You might be able to convince them through this argument. I wish you best of luck. I hope your family gets to agree with it. 6 upykawok
10/31/2017

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