Surrogacy or not?

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Surrogacy or not?
Hello people. I hope everyone is enjoying a healthy and happy life. There was a time in my life also when I led a happy and healthy life. But things changed so quickly that I couldnít understand whatís happening until my doctor is told me about my heart disease. I was like, oh God please have mercy on me! I was not worried about my disease. The thing that made me upset and worried was that now I cannot get pregnant until these disease goes away from my body. I told this to my whole family and my husband, and they were also very shocked. They also couldnít believe because no other women in my family ever had this disease. I think I am the cursed one. I am really broken from inside. I cannot figure out anything about my life. Itís like everything is shattered in to pieces. But there is one positive thing in all this situation that my husband has always been with me. Its 3 years now, and he still loves me the same as he did in the early times. Last month I asked my doctor to suggest me some other way of having a baby because this fatal heart disease will take too long to get cured. She suggested me to go for surrogacy. I discussed this matter with my family, and they are against this because they think of it as an unnatural process which is a taboo for them. I am really stuck with this decision. I donít know what to do. As anyone ever encountered such a situation, then please give me a solution to it. I am very eager to have a baby but my family is not agreeing on my decision. People kindly help me with this. Much love. 1 Jasmine.Flower
10/18/2017
Hi Jasmine Flower, I am doing fine. How are you doing? I really felt sad after reading your story. I wish we were able to change the things the way we want. God will definitely have mercy on you. I know it will take long to recover from this heart disease. However, this does not mean that you cannot become a mother. Surrogacy is definitely a way out. Through surrogacy, you will have your own baby. As you cannot carry your baby due to your disease, a surrogate mother will be doing this for you. Tell your family that it is not unnatural way at all. They will use your eggs and your husbandís sperms. They will put the embryo in the surrogate mother and this way you will have your baby. Try to talk to your husband about this. I am sure he will agree to go for surrogacy. 2 Spencer5715
10/18/2017
Hi Jasmine. Seems you are as delicate as your name. Life will not be fair every time dear. You need to learn to fight. You are fighting a heart disease that shows you are brave. Similarly, to have family you should have your spirits high first of all. I have one of my kid naturally but other kid through surrogacy. It wasn't easy with it either. Let me tell you though its very natural process. Only the difference is that you are not bearing the child but a surrogate is doing it for you. The surrogate will go through same pain and fatigue biological mother goes through. So it is just a misconception that it is artificial birth. If you are thinking to have children with this procedure still you need to make up your mind. Sometimes it takes several attempts for stimulation, then finding a surrogate is also a lengthy process might take up to 3 months to find a matching surrogate mother. All of this needs patience and strength to handle the pressure. First convince your husband, rest of the things will fall on their places. Take this decision with a composed mind, don't be impulsive. May things get easier for you. 3 Nicole Adams
10/18/2017
I understand your dilemma. Many people tend to find it hard to wrap their heads around the concept of surrogacy. But in my opinion, it is a wonderful solution for women like you and me. I speak from experience. I opted for surrogacy two years ago. I gave some tests in a clinic They let me choose the surrogate mother and gave me many other options too. Then after stimulation and fertilization, the process was underway. A few short months later, I was blessed with a baby girl I can call my own. 4 Stacy
10/18/2017
Hey Jasmine, hope you are doing well. Life can be unpredictable. You never know what the future holds for you. However, you have to be firm and thankful to God. My prayers are with you that may God provide you with health and may grant your wish of having your own children. For this surrogacy is the only option, my dear. Because at this stage of your disease, you can't risk your life. If your husband is with you, then you should consider this option seriously. In the end, it's your decision, not your family's. 5 jawemoty
10/31/2017
Hello Jasmine Flower, do not curse yourself, my dear, as it was not under your control. Your life has not ended because of this disease. You have to be courageous and things will be fine. It is amazing to hear that your husband has always been your support. What is your husbandís opinion about surrogacy? Is he agreeing? I think you should try to convince your family by telling them that the baby will belong to you and your husband genetically. You might be able to convince them through this argument. I wish you best of luck. I hope your family gets to agree with it. 6 upykawok
10/31/2017
Hi everyone! I hope everyone is doing great and I hope that I am also treated as a family here as other women. My friend recommended me this forum as she knows that I was very stressed and want to just spit out every depressing thing in my mind. I couldnít do so with my family and friends because I was very upset and shy. i was thinking for a long time to share my problem via this forum. i know all of you know how it is important to have a complete family. i was in deep sorrow because of having no children after marriage. I could not have been able to recover myself from my grief and this upset condition if my husband had not supported from the time I was diagnosed that i can't be a mother. he took me to different doctors to cure the problems. actually i had some serious infections in my body which created many hurdles to for me to give birth to a baby. my husband truly loves me a lot and always tries to take good care of me. I feel very luck on this side. He has never said something harsh to me related to my disease or about not being able to have babies. My life is his first priority. Well I am looking for the surrogacy procedure. I hope I get to make a decision soon. Earlier I was thinking of adaptation but my husband refused it. I hope he does not refuse for surrogacy as it is a safe procedure to have your own children. 7 talinda4
12/31/2017
My mane is Cristina. I am 31 years old. My colleague advised me to join this forum. she also found it very useful at the time when she was also facing problem related to infertility. Because she had some major disease in her body. She now has a beautiful baby with the help of surrogacy. She has gone through this process with the help of ďBioTexComĒ. And now she is living a healthy life as well. She suggested me to contact that clinic and tell them your problem.i searched for their website and contact them. The way team BioTexCom treated was much appreciated. I finalized my decision and went for surrogacy. Now I have a complete and healthy family. I would definitely suggest you to cure your problem by following their procedure. Much love. 8 cristina4
1/1/2018
Hi dear, how are you. I am really sorry for your condition. This is a real bad thing that happened for you. You just have to be calm. You must not be worry about anything. The surrogacy is really a good option. You could always go with surrogacy. You could simply write surrogacy on you tube and check the links of biotexcom clinic on you tube. They breif you completely. I hope this is helpful for you. 9 cathie
1/10/2018
I completely donít understand your family. Why is surrogacy unnatural? You get your biological baby, but thereís no need to risk your health. As for me, this is the best option for you. The surrogate will give birth to your baby and you will never see her again. The law will protect you and your baby. Thatís why donít forget to sign an agreement. If thereís no other way to become parents, why donít you use the surrogacy? May be you want to adopt? It is also a great option. A lot of couples adopt nowadays. Itís up to you. I have one baby born in a natural way, and one more born by the surrogate. Unfortunately, I had problems during the first delivery. Thatís why I was unable to conceive again. But it wasnít a huge problem for us. We decided to enter the surrogacy program. It solved our infertility issue. As a result we are happy parents of two amazing kids. I think you should talk to your family again and again. And, what is the most important, try to assure your husband that surrogacy is a great option. If he wants to have kids, he will agree. It doesnít matter who gives birth to your baby. You will love him anyway. You will forget about the surrogate when you see your baby for the first time. It is unforgettable! Trust me! No one is allowed to tell you what to do. Your family consists of you and your husband only. This should be your decision. Good luck, dear. 10 amazingbear
1/12/2018
Hello ladies.Well, my experience with BioTex was amazing! One year ago, approximately, I was given a diagnosis of a very serious disease, because of which there is no way for me to have children. The adoption process is very difficult in Spain, moreover if you have some problem Ė a serious disease. So, I started to look for a solution, started to think if we can start the process in United States, Canada, MexicoÖ But the options did not seem to be adequate for us. Because, Mexico, because it is too far and because there is no provision for the surrogate motherhood, or so-called ďwomb to rentĒ, in the legislation. Because it seems that the surrogate mother cannot be remunerated, there is no provision in any law, and you can not sign any contract with such provision. That`s why we started to consider the eastern part, Russia, and Ukraine. And, due to economic factor, which is also so important in our time, and because of the crisis, we decided to trust in BioTexCom and undertook the adventure, and went directly to Ukraine, where we were met in a wonderful way.In our case, we chose the unlimited attempts because it gave us guarantee which we were expecting. There are other clinics and other packages, which offer you attempt by the attempt, but, you don`t really know the total sum of money which you will have to pay at the end. And for the middle class, the most adequate option is to have a program with a fixed price. That`s why we decided on this program. It is amazing in this meaning. 11 candir
1/16/2018
Hi there. I am so sorry to read about your situation in life. This is a general issue nowadays. Look; just don't lose hope. You need it. Always have hope. Everything works on hope. You will be able to have an optimistic attitude towards your issue only when you will have. Faith in miracles is very important. As you said; I think you can opt for surrogacy. You have not revealed your age; I would have been more specific with my proposition. Anyways; if you are younger than 34 you can go for an "IVF" treatment as well. They are guaranteed with positive outcomes. Just the only negative aspect of this process is age. If you are older than 34; simply opt for surrogacy. It will be paramount in your case. Do some research about your options? Seek recommendation from doctors. Look for best and affordable clinics. I am sure you will have no problem in conceiving through these Medical advancements in world. All the best wishes for you. Nancy! 12 Nancy
1/20/2018

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