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Hi, everyone. Everybody in this world wants to live a perfect life. Every one of us has a different definition of a perfect life. For me, the perfect life is a happy and healthy family. I always wanted to live a happy life with my husband and kids. My husband and I, both knew of my heart disease. My husband also knew about my utmost desire of having a happy family. However, my husband did not want to have a baby at the cost of my life. He told me that I am his first priority. He told me that my health is his first concern. His support always cheered me up. On the other hand, I feel bad too because it was due to my health issues that we cannot plan a baby. My husband was healthy and fine. I started feeling depressed about not being able to have a family with my husband. I started cursing myself. I was upset both physically and mentally. 1 adney
9/29/2017
Hi Adney! I am sorry to hear about your problem. I know it is very difficult for you to cope with this situation. It might be very difficult for you to believe that you cannot have a complete family. Every human being on this earth strives to pursue a happy and successful life. I have similar goals in my life too. But everyone does not have the perks of enjoying a happy life. I am also having the similar problem. I have a heart disease that is called mitral stenosis that prevents me to have a baby. I have joined this forum to share my problems and get any advice on this forum. I am amazed to see that you have posted a problem similar to mine but I also feel sorry for you. I have always wanted to have kids but my heart disease is a hurdle for my happy life. I am always really depressed due to this reason. When I see many other people having complete families and enjoying their lives I get really jealous of them and only ask a question from myself that why not me? The doctors have told me that if I have a baby with my hard disease it can cause many problems. I can even lose my life. My husband loves me a lot and he believes that nothing more important than my life. I am happy to know that your husband also loves you and supports you in this hour of problem you are facing. I hope every other female facing such problems gets through all this with courage and strength. 2 Jasmine.Flower
9/29/2017
Yesss! It's pretty relative with my case. I had this not more than a few years ago. I was childless just like you. Our (me and my DH) life was miserable and empty without a child. Due to my uterus removal after my hysterectomy, I had this thing all my mind that now I can't conceive. My husband was happy after I survived an accident, which leads to my uterus removal...But still, after a year of my surgery, we both got realized that we can't have a baby now. How will we live without one? Practically, a marriage has no meaning without a child and our family was incomplete. I didn't know how to sort this out. I tried going for adoption..But I had few reservations of my own. But later a co-worker of my DH suggested us to go for a medical tour in Europe. It was for surrogacy. Well, on his emphasis. We went for it and well it was the best decision of our lives. We had this son finally though it..He completed us and now we are finally a complete family...Thanks to destiny for finally helping and filling our lives with happiness. 3 SelenaJones
9/29/2017
Hi dear. I'm sorry about your condition. I know how you feel. every woman would want to have a child. Every couple wants a child to add happiness in his little family. Indeed a child can make a complete and happy. You are a very lucky woman dear. You have a husband who loves you very much. Do you and your husband ever think to do surrogacy ?. You and your husband can use your own eggs and sperm. That child is your biological child. It's just that who gave birth to him is someone else. In eastern european surrogacy countries has been legalized. There are also many clinics who are experienced in the field of surrogacy. You can find information about the clinic. Hopefully you find the solution. Good luck 4 vozay10
9/29/2017
Your husband is right adney your life is more important. having a baby is precious experience no doubt. But at the cost of your life it doesnít worth at all. You are lucky to have husband who cares for you. I can understand infertility caused me depression and it was most dark period of my life. I had an epilepsy so my hormonal balance was disturbed and it developed infertility. my husband is loving person he always helped me out. He was aware of epilepsy and still we got married. being infertile doesnít make us burden. although i never be able to have a normal person life what I desired most. But my husband is my motivation and some time its enough. I am still trying to conceive after taking numerous treatments. I still hope some I would be able to have my own baby and a happy family. My husband helped me to consider other options. But I want genetically mine baby which seems impossible. 5 emma spencer
9/29/2017
It is really sad when we talk about infertility. I am also infertile. This was very bad to hear about this. I got to know this after marriage. My husband was really supportive. Now, It has been 12 years ago. I am struggling on every method. My friends told me about surrogacy. I find the method secure and best for infertile. I am planning for surrogacy in a clinic of Ukraine. what is your idea? We do not want to go for surrogacy. Help. 6 Carisscot
9/30/2017
Hello my dear. This is truly very sad. I can understand the emotions boiling up within you. However, I am here to tell you that your thoughts are wrong. Just because you don't have children doesn't mean that you are incomplete. Stop thinking like that. You are a wonderful person. There is so much in life to live for. Take it from an old gal like me. I am over 40 years of age and have been infertile for over a decade. I still visit fertility clinics to find a cure for myself. So my pont is, don't give up. Don't feel hopeless. Keep praying to God and ask Him to fulfill your dreams. All the best for your life. And if you have anything to discuss, I am just one comment away. 7 Selina Dylan
9/30/2017
I absolutely recommend The Fertility Diet! It's based on a wonderful, HUGE, empirically-sound study and it has a great base for changing one's diet to boost fertility. It also incorporates exercise and general lifestyle tips. I did consult with BioTexCom clinic for mine, You can consult too. 8 Deepika
9/30/2017
Hi Adney! Hope you doing well. I am sorry to know about your heart disease. I can understand your feelings about not having kids. Dear! You are lucky to have loving husband so don't be sad and be grateful.I also love children and trying for three years. This year I had miscarriage due to incompetent cervix. The loss of my child was really depressing. I couldn't eat and sleep well.My husband helped me to console. I heard about surrogacy from some of my friends. This seemed to me a good option and feel hopeful. Me and my husband are searching for appropriate doctor and surrogate. You can also opt for surrogacy for children. Planning for child with heart disease might be risky for you. It might put your life in danger. Take care. 9 Grace Smith
9/30/2017
Hello, Jasmine.Flower, our case is very similar. I know what you are going through because of not being able to get pregnant. We both even are fertile but still, we cannot have a baby. We are unable to complete our families even when there is nothing wrong with our reproductive systems. We are able to reproduce. The hurdle that came in between is our heart diseases. I wish we would be healthy and fine like other people. I wish we were able to have families just like other normal people. All these thoughts make me feel depressed and helpless. My husband is very supportive. He loves babies but he is always telling me that he has no issues if we cannot become parents. I know it is hard for him too. I want to make him happy. I want to surprise by telling him that we are on the way to become parents. But it not possible due to my disease. 10 adney
10/1/2017
Mother nature can be cruel some time adney. The feeling of emptiness is crucial. But donít feel stopped on this matter. We are created to suffer, learn and be patient over problems. Depression caught me on the same situation when I got married. infertility is the pain known to only those who suffer. My friends who were expecting i stopped meeting them. it was complete social boycott you can say. I was hopeless i dont know where to look at where to go what to do. How hard to be a mother suddenly became. Visiting doctors was another headache. But few of my family member suggested to take psychological help so i started it. it went well i start catching up with life again. You should also consider it . And first thing first talk with your husband openly about other options as well. 11 lily james
10/1/2017
Hello again Adney! I hope you are doing well. I am really glad to see that you replied to me. It mean a lot to a person who is facing such problems. I also feel very sorry that you are also dealing it. I can also understand your emotions. It is very hard to believe that we cannot become mothers and it saddens me more when I think that I am not even infertile. Our heart problem and infertility are two different cases for not letting us being pregnant. Sharing each otherís problems and emotions can make one feel better. Alike you I also love kids so much and same is with my husband. We have always wanted children of our own but it is not possible. He keeps on supporting me and loving me as your husband does. That is a good thing for every women who is facing such problems. I feel really guilty in front of him when I see him playing with others children and when we go out and see other families doing so. He also feels upset from inside but does not show me. We can also do nothing in such a situation. There is only one thing for us and that is hope. You should also keep on hoping for the best. Always be close to your husband so he also does not feel the absence of children and take good care of him. I am also trying to do things that distract me from this like reading novels and watching tv shows. You should also try some. Take good care of yourself and stay happy. Lots of love. :) 12 Jasmine.Flower
10/1/2017
Adney , your problem is so relatable to mine. I have PCOS and cannot conceive either. My husband knew about my disease before our marriage since we had been in relationship before our marriage. As we are getting older I feel the need of family even more. I sometimes feel guilty that I have ruined Bill's life by marrying him though he never let me feel it. However I am still on search for methods to expand our family. Last weekend I read an article about invitro fertilization , which seems quite promising for infertile couples like us. The next day I went to a surrogation institute to discover more about it . I must say I am quite positive that I will be able to conceive. They explained me how they will inject hormone for few days to stimulate ovaries. My fertility consultant explained me whole procedure . It makes me feel I will be able to have a baby . Well fingers crossed my next appointment is with Bill who is still not very happy thinking I am jeopardizing my life . But I am sure he will be confident about once he gets to know whole scenario. I hope you also find this helpful, I'll post you about my case . Do pray for me . Hugs. 13 Jenifer
10/1/2017
Hello again Adney! Living with a health condition such as†heart disease can be stressful at times. The heart disease might seem hurdle for both of you. I can understand how difficult it is to become mother when suffering from such disease. But don't lose hope because of this ailment. Dear you need to be strong in this situation. Don't be depressed and think you are helpless. I too had negative and depressing vibes after my miscarriage. My husband helped to console . After this I realised remaining depressed about my loss is not the solution. It will only detoriate me and nothing good will happen. After discussing my problem with some friends I came to know about surrogacy. Now me and my husband are going to try. Since both of your husbands are supportive discuss with them. They might agree with you and give it a try. My prayers for your good health. Take care! 14 Grace Smith
10/2/2017
Ladies, I have a news , I was in the session which I talked about in latter post. I came to know that many women with heart diseases have opt for surrogacy . Women who had the severity like you people even they have chosen surrogacy as a way to have family. They have not faced any complications as such with their kids health . I thought this might be a great news for all of you . I guess surrogacy is doing wonders for children deprived women like us. We all can atleast dream to have our own babies . On the other hand my husband is still reluctant .. But I think he will get convinced . fingers crossed.. 15 Jenifer
10/2/2017
1) Hello, my name is Isabel Mason. And I am Like 40+ years old. I am a housewife but my all the mirages are broken. Due to my cancer which I had in my early age, I lost my ability to give birth to a baby. And hey Adney I hope you are doing well I feel sorry to hear about your heart disease. I hope you are doing well now. I was broken when my first mirage was broken I was shocked and was in real depression for many years. Until I found another who also gave me divorce just because I canít give birth to a baby. I also feel lonely. I also want to give birth to a baby plus I want to be fertile. But every person has its destination, and this is what I had it's my destination to be infertile. I am in real depression and anxiety I donít know what will happen to me in the coming years. Iím broke right now I just wanted a baby of mine, but none of my husbands ever supported me or helped me to get through all this pain I can understand your pain, Adney. It feels horrible when I get to know you are disabled by other means. And you are useless for other people. 16 Isabel
10/3/2017
Hello again Adney. It has been a very nice experience talking to you. Even if its just on this thread. Like I said, don't stress yourself. You had no control over this. I am confident that you will have a baby. Because bad things, don't happen to good people. With the way science is progressing, there will certainly be a cure for your condition. If not today, then in the future. Don't lose hope. I also have great admiration for your husband. He is a very patient and loving man. I have seen men leave their wives for the reason you have mentioned. I am praying for you dear. I feel your pain to the very core. You are a very strong and graceful wan. All the best. 17 Selina Dylan
10/4/2017
Hi there Adney. kindly do not feel bad for not being able to give birth. I understand your situation and would like to advise you not to give up. May people have been through the same problem you are undergoing but they managed to come out as victors. in fact, you are lucky that your husband does not pressurizes you. there are some women who have been divorced due to their inability to give birth. Your husband is understanding and you should appreciate him for that. Nevertheless, do not give up in your search for a child. There are many reasons why someone cannot give birth. You can consult a doctor and see how they can help you. You might be offered various means to have a child. You should include your husband in such decisions and make sure you make the right option. All the best in your endeavors. 18 Noreen
10/18/2017
Hi Adney, I really felt happy after reading about your husband. You have such an amazing person in the form of your husband. He is totally right that you need to take care of yourself before. You donít need to stress yourself. Why donít you go for some fertility treatment?. I took the surrogacy procedure to have the baby. You should also go for it. Surrogacy lets you have your child that is genetically yours. Talk to your husband about it as it has high success rate. 19 deffyttippu
10/28/2017
Hey Adney. I understand your situation so well. As I myself was in a similar situation. That is why I can give you some good news. Your heart disease does not mean you can't have a child. All you need to do is get creative and think out of the box. Opt for other methods such as adoption and surrogacy. I have had a great experience with surrogacy and am a huge advocate of the procedure. 20 iqajezee
10/31/2017
"Hi Adney, Have you considered any alternative options for having a baby yet? It's sad that you have health issues, but if you are able to produce one egg and your male partner is able to give the reproduction center his sperms, you guys can still have a chance to complete your family. The child born will be your biological child. I am saying this because I know how it feels to have everything in the world but still feeling alone. When your partner is so supportive yet you feel like there's something missing in your lives. Having a baby is one of the most beautiful things in the world you can ever experience. Further, it's not like surrogacy is the only alternative. I, however, regard it as one of the best for infertile women. Also, not only I know surrogacy as the best option, I also happen to know of the best surrogacy clinic too. It's called BioTexCom. Go ahead and realize your dream. Good Luck!" 21 mubippery
10/31/2017
Yes! I think he is right about it. Your situation isn't fine enough to have a baby. I think you should forget this idea of getting pregnant. In a case like yours, I think surrogacy can be the best option..Well, I still wish you better luck with it. I think you should reconsider your options. I myself had surrogacy after 4 years of struggling from TTC. 22 kafynnujo
10/31/2017

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