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I have been facing infertility issue from last year. I consulted with the doctors about it and figured out that I had some issues such as a change in periods and falling down on emotions. L have no idea what the hell happen but infertility is bad. It's been four years to my marriage. I am a 33-year-old woman living in an Australia. I am still discovering the meaning of life. It's good to have a baby who fulfills your life but it seems everything wrong happen to me. I just want to get out of everything and want to figure out the way to get a baby. 1 melisaadams
8/22/2017
So sorry to hear your story. I can feel your pain, it's really painful to not to become a mother. Well, there are more than one ways actually. Have you heard or read about surrogacy? or adoption? or both? If no then, I suggest you read and search about it. You may find it useful. But before discussing it you should visit a clinic. That way, you will know what's the problem? either the problem is in or with you or with your husband? I know the joy of becoming a parent. And also the problems faced by the couples who were and are unable to become parents. It should be best if you discuss it with your husband and the closest friend. Also if possible read some articles as well. I am sure you will become a very good mom in the coming future. Best regards. 2 Cyrell
8/23/2017
Hello. It's so sad that you can't get pregnant. I'm a happy mother of two amazing boys and I can say it's a great pleasure. But I also know what is it being infertile. My sister and her husband were suffering because of infertility for 6 years. And, you know, they found the solution. Now they are amazing parents of 2 years old girl. She is an adopted kid but they love her so much. I was helping them when they were visiting different adoption centers and I know their feelings. The kids situation is a real tragedy nowadays. There are so many kids which dream to find their loving family. I believe you can become one of those loving Moms! You just have to be brave enough to adopt a baby. It's a great responsibility. But it is worth trying! Now they dream about one more kid. I'm not sure if they are going to adopt. We've heard a lot of good recommendations about surrogacy. So, we are going to make a research! 3 LindaLL
8/28/2017
Hi, Melisa. Please, don't give up. Infertility seems to become more and more popular disease nowadays. But I also know that medicine and science rapidly develop. There are a lot of infertile couples which realized their dream to become parents. I know that you are gonna become one of them. Talk to your husband, ask him to help you with this problem. If he wants to become a father he should do his best. There are a lot of modern reproduction centers which help infertile couples to get a baby. I've heard that the best one is located in Ukraine. You can easily contact them and ask for more details. Discuss these details with your husband. If there's no way to treat your disease, you can use the help of the surrogate mother. You shouldn't be afraid that some unknown woman will give birth to your baby. You will be the biological parents of this baby. She will not even be mentioned in the birth certificate. Anyway, does it really matter in what way was your baby born? No one will never find out this information. You will be the only loving parents of this kid. I think you should try it. This can be your only chance to become parents. So why not to use it? Just make sure that your eggs are still ok. The doctors will make all the necessary examinations. After you make sure that you and your husband are ok, they will choose the surrogate for you. She will also have to pass a lot of tests. Another option for you is adoption. I've always dreamed to have an adopted kid. But it takes too much time to find an appropriate baby. So, you decide. You and your husband, of course. 4 AmandaR
9/7/2017
Hi, I am Agnes. I am new in this group. I am 25 years old and trying every method to become a mother. When I joined here I have seen that I am not alone in this journey. Many couples are suffering from same infertility issues. This was really depressing for me as well. I was the adopted child of my parents. I want to be a mother. I got married two years ago. There is no hope till now. I have researched on surrogacy clinics are they good? Please if any one has any experience let me know. Also, I want to know about legal aspects of surrogacy. 5 AgnesHanna
9/9/2017
I am in the same situation as yours. I am much depressed with this problem. I am 25 years old. I had a problem of PCOS before marriage. I was taking full treatment and doctor declares me okay when I was going to marry. Now when 2 years passed I still do not have any hope for having a baby. I am really depressed with this issue. I have tried almost everything in two months. I have tried IVF but this method was also failed for me. My husband told me about surrogacy. This is a secure method for having a baby according to him. What should I do, please give me a recommendation? I am researching on clinics related to surrogacy also. 6 AgnesHanna
9/9/2017
Hi Really sad to know about your issue. I would suggest you to not worry about it and be at ease. I have also been married for 6 years now and do not have a baby yet. I have the problem of PCOS and have consulted my doctor several times. 7 Neha5
9/13/2017
One suggestion is that there are a lot of options these days for having a baby. If this is bothering you a lot, you may even explore surrogacy as an option. YOu may read about it. It is completely normal and healthy. 8 Neha5
9/13/2017
Hi dear. I'm sorry about your situation. I understand what you feel. well, sometimes life doesnít go like what we want. There are many things we sometimes do not want to come to us. I know every woman would want to have a child. Every woman wants to get pregnant. But for women who have infertility problems, it's very sad. The chances of getting pregnant for women with infertility problems are very small. It hurts. My sister was having infertility. Already 5 years married without children. She consulted a doctor. Doctor recommend to do IVF. But the bad thing happened, the IVF failed. She was very sad and felt desperate. But after that get some suggestions to do surrogacy. She is currently collecting information about surrogacy. Maybe he will do surrogacy to get the child. She heard there is a good clinic to do surrogacy in Ukraine. In Ukraine surrogacy has been legalized, thereby making it easier to take care of legal issues later on. Be sure you can be a mother. 9 brylia39
9/14/2017
hey take heart so sorry to hear your story,it is every womans dream to have kids and i understand how you feel.i advice you to be strong anddo more tests and you should also know there are other ways for someone to get kids it can be through adoption,surrogacy etc. 10 nelida hafley
9/29/2017
hey melissa i am so sorry for what your going through am sure you would want to try other ways to get a baby if you really want one maybe through surrogacy,adoption.just try 11 debbie brown
10/20/2017
Hi Melissa Adams, life is really very tough life without babies. Donít feel alone and deprived. There will be a way out. All you have to do is not to lose hope. Have not doctors suggested you some medicines for your problem? If yes, are you taking those medicines? I hope you find a way out soon. 12 Nicholson
11/8/2017
Well, if you are already considering an alternative, that's a good thing. Then you might as well have at least heard about Surrogacy. You would make an ideal candidate and the success probability would be pretty high. My SIL had a somewhat similar situation, she had tilted uterus. She opted for Surrogacy when she turned 39. Doctors told her that the ideal age is (max) 35. She had luck and was able to donate an egg and so has a surrogate baby boy now, still, I think it's better to not risk your odds and go for it before it gets too late. 13 Whitney
11/8/2017
Well, if you are already considering an alternative, that's a good thing. Then you might as well have at least heard about Surrogacy. You would make an ideal candidate and the success probability would be pretty high. My SIL had a somewhat similar situation, she had tilted uterus. She opted for Surrogacy when she turned 39. Doctors told her that the ideal age is (max) 35. She had luck and was able to donate an egg and so has a surrogate baby boy now, still, I think it's better to not risk your odds and go for it before it gets too late. 13 Whitney
11/8/2017
" Hey melisa. I am glad to know you are discovering the meaning of your life. Feels like you are a very sensible and mature woman. I totally agree with you that having a baby just fulfils your life. It gives you a purpose and a reason to live. Donít be disappointed dear. Itís been just four years to your marriage. You still have a long life ahead. And infertility cannot keep you from having a baby. You can still have a baby by Surrogacy. I have a friend who didnít have a baby after even 6 years of marriage. She and her husband were very disappointed and had almost given up. But then they got to know about Surrogacy and today they have a two year old boy. " 14 RohmaQ
11/20/2017
Hello there. How are you? I am so sorry to hear about your condition. Infertility is such a major problem these days in women. Had you consulted any specialist? Especially; fertility doctor? If you, this is something you must do right now. Get an appointment and get yourself thoroughly checked up. Let them ran some tests on you. This way you will know your fertility rate. IF they still told you that you cannot conceive due to many reasons; do not give up. Medical advancements have eradicated this ďInfertilityĒ word form world. If you cannot conceive naturally; you can conceive artificially. It is 100% safe and in most of the case; results of positive outcome is guaranteed. You can only decide which is best for you; once you took the advice of doctors. Ask them which fertility treatment will be best suited for you? You are a 33-year-old woman. Your chances of having a successful IVF treatment are very high. You can opt for it. This is quite same and recent discover in Medical field of infertility. Again; seek advice of doctors. They will give you most preeminent advice. We can just share our experiences. I had been diagnosed with PCOS disease. I cannot conceive naturally. So; my husband did quite an extensive research and then opted for a clinic ďBioTexComĒ. Due to this clinic and my husbandís hard work; today I have 2 beautiful babies. Both born through treatment. I am sure; you can have babies too. First and foremost; consult a doctor then ask for their advice and then do your own research as well. It Is necessary to do your research. Then opt for the best option. I am sharing a link of clinic with you as well. You can look into this as well. Hope for the best, dear. Nancy!! https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA 15 Nancy
1/22/2018
Hi 33 y/o Melissa, First things first: Get this notion out of your head. That a child is the only way you can find meaning in life. Aren't you still career-oriented? Were you in the past? Well, then you better be. The world is moving so fast. And we need people who have known struggles. (ANY KIND!) So that they can emerge out of their misery-chambers and help others. You seem so depressed. You need to have some human-to-human connections. That also on regular basis. Please join some network or something. No, not these virtual. But like groups where you can sit together. And just talk. Being physically present. That will help you find other meanings in life. Anyhow, if you don't any of that. And you just want to have a baby. You may follow this link: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA I wish you best in everything. Love xx 16 Opal
1/23/2018
Hey AgnesHanna, So you said that you were an adopted child of your parents. WOW! That just got me a little intrigued. If you could please share more of your experience? I would love to know the good and the bad times. Especially, those that led you to belief that you had better not be with them. Or when you thanked God for blessing you with two wonderful human beings. (I hope this comes true!). And why would you not go for adoption? Because of your own worse experience? Maybe you want to reconsider all these things. Before you arrive at any decision. Although, there's no harm with the alternatives you mention. I'm just more in favor of adoption. Hence my ramblings around it. As for your queries surrounding surrogacy. You may check this: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA Love and light for you. xx 17 Opal
1/23/2018
Hi Neha, You seem like a real caring person. You mention your inability to conceive for more than 6 years. And yet wishing for others welfare. SO, I mean to discuss your problem here. Did it affect your relationship anyway? The infertility, I mean. And is your husband supportive in this case? Or he's cursing you. Because the fault is in you, and not him. I can only imagine how tough this might be for you. Harder to even digest that you are the barren land. Why, why didn't get you treatment for PCOS earlier-on? For how long did you suffer? And were you informed that the illness might lead you to this disaster. Well, it's not nice to say such words. But it also helps to stay realistic. Have you tried any alternatives? What you suggestd here. Have you tried it for yourself? If you're still looking for professional assistance. You might wanna check this link. https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC3wkbgaaXc2XaxTYJhtR0rA I don't know if that assuage your difficulties. But I can pray for you. Love. xx 18 Opal
1/23/2018
You seem to be so frustrated, dear. Please, don't be. It is very important to stay positive and keep looking for the solution. A lot of women are going through infertility nowadays. I know how hard it is because I was in the same boat with you. I'm very glad that medicine is getting more and more developed today. Doctors are doing their best to help infertile couples. Most women get pregnant with the help of IVF. In some cases a couple of attempts might be needed. But it gives a real chance to get pregnant. Have you been thinking of this option? You should discuss it with your doctor. As I was unable to get pregnant for years I was recommended to enter the surrogacy program. Most couples are still afraid of surrogacy. I was also scared but I agreed to try it out. It was our last chance to become parents. Well, I don't regret that we did it. Now we have our amazing twin boys. They were born by the surrogate in one of Ukrainian clinics. This country offers high quality medical service at an affordable price. And what is the most important, they offer surrogacy legally. Everything has happened pretty fast. Doctors were constantly helping us. We had nothing to worry about. You can easily go there for a consultation. They will help you to find the most appropriate solution to your situation. I'm sure you will be satisfied with the service. I met a lot of infertile couples there. All of them are happy parents now. You can become one of those happy couples. I wish you good luck. 19 luckymy
5/17/2018
Hello sweetheart! As it was possible to understand you are infertile. Itís a very relative term. It also can hide many and many different faces. From your post itís unable to find out what youíve really got. What type of infertility spoils your current life? It wasnít a question. I just wanna say no one can advise in such case. Go to your doctor and remember your diagnosis. I understand you are upset because of childless life through trying. You say only a year has been passed. Perhaps you should work more. Sometimes pregnancy comes after 3 years of trying. And maybe your future full of meaning is waiting further. Goode luck! Keep on trying more 20 toytoo
5/18/2018
Hello! Donít bet in despair. you shouldnít give up. I really hope itís possible Ďto discover the meaning of lifeí with babies. Iím also struggling with infertility. Iím tired of different faces of this misfortune. It affects mu life. However, I even donít let myself think about surrendering. Itís my game. Iíll be a winner. My husband and I are planning to have surrogacy. I see many of this forumís members have already succeeded. I just want to start. Their stories inspire me to go. Weíre sure surrogacy will help us. It helps everybody who was hopeless. You are from Australia. I heard you can both go to US or Europe for treatment. Itís a long distance. You should make sure your clinic is trustworthy. Contact some of them. It helps to compare. I believe youíll not face difficulties to find a relevant clinic. There are many offers on internet. Youíd better listen to people. They have experience. I guess they could advise. Iím here for getting some tips. Iíd love to avoid fraud. This market attracts lots of swindlers. They want to cheat us. Be careful dear. Itís better to cooperate with independent clinics. Donít have programs with help of separate suspicious guys. I had 3 IUI. My IVF story counts 5 attempts. I failed all of them. I decided to stop these rounds. They exhausted me. I was losing any hope. Now Iím prepared for new challenge. Itís longer and having its own pitfalls. I feel Iím more than ready. Donít be afraid of doing new things. Try and move on. You will definitely get your chance. 21 elementa
6/19/2018
Hello, dear! Howís it going? You said the things. They shouldnít make you so anxious. I canít be mistaken of course. One year isnít such a big term. You can be all right. Sometimes changes in womanís body last for more. Certainly Iím not the expert. I donít have medical degree. Maybe itís not good to give such an advice. Anyway in my opinion you have all chances to feel fine. My story is different. I became infertile suddenly and immediately. My changes happened in likely mechanical manner. My main reproductive organs were removed. Iím not a wise man of fertility treatment. However, I spend much time on forums. It helps me to relax and get calm. In addition, it can bring a little inspiration. This thing is so much needed. In my case there was only one way out. Iím trying to catch my goal now. Iím taking part in surrogacy journey. My surrogate is almost 5 months pregnant. Itís not the same as to be pregnant on my own. In any case itís my last chance to have baby. Iíd be childless without this method. I heard it sometimes may take 2 years for getting pregnant naturally. Donít get into panic. It has no use. Maybe you should continue the practice of natural conceiving. Donít you know the couples which couldnít get pregnant for 5 or 7 years? They never applied to clinics. Perhaps some of them lived in surrounding that wouldnít understand them. I donít know. As well I donít want to imagine on it. They became parents after those years of trying. It makes sense to try. I donít want to suggest you to spend decade in that. Itíll be too ridiculous. The doctor may advise using assisting ways. Itís a regular suggestion after year and half in trying without results. You can try IUI. Maybe thereís a problem in sperm delivery. Yeah, sperm can have low motility. You egg and his semen canít meet each other. Actually the physician may explain it better. Actually IVF is really helping method. Many couples annually find their happiness through it. You can have it in every country. I guess IVF isnít banned anywhere. What about surrogacy? I think itís too early. Itís too hasty discussion. You neednít think of it at all. In the best event you just have some hormonal disorder. I hope nothing serious. I had gaps in periods. It could me twice or thrice a year. It was before my disease. I suffered from cancer. Actually I didnít suffer from it more than I suffer now. I was diagnosed with it only when I felt bad. The doctors delete my womb and ovaries. I had a cervical cancer. It is sad, isnít it? Yeah, I love repeating I began wanting to become a parent only after I lost my hope. I found sense of being in this journey. I believe you mustnít have tragedy. All will be okay. You just donít know it so far. Make a complete examination. Then keep on trying. I suppose it will bring a wonderful baby to you sooner or later. Donít avoid visiting forums. People can tell something really important sometimes. 22 Clarentz
6/20/2018

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