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What do you think of sperm donation? I honestly want to choose my donor, but wouldn't that be weird for my husband? I mean, I could let HIM choose but I don't know. He's very much the jealous type. It's just that he has a problem with his reproductive system and his doctors say there is little to no chance he will ever be able to produce viable sperm. I'm sick and tired of having to suffer miscarriages - it's been 8 miscarriages so far and I can't take it anymore. He says he wants to keep trying, but I don't want to. It's so much for my body and my spirit to handle. Having a sperm donor is my only hope. Does anyone know of a clinic that is good enough to handle this? I live in Australia, but I would go anywhere if I can finally have my baby. Please help me! How can I let my husband know this is not cheating? I'm scared he will not accept the baby as his own, because it's physically from another man. 1 purehuman
7/19/2017
First of all, about your husband: If he also wishes for a family he shouldn't care whether it is his own or not. First and foremost you are his family. You should ask him if it would be a big deal for him if you were the one who couldn't have babies and you needed to opt for a surrogate. Second: I don't see what's wrong with choosing your donor. Maybe the best idea is to go for a foreign country. Is he scared of meeting the donor? If he lives far away then it's almost impossible for them to ever meet. For example BioTex in Kiev, they don't even allow you to meet your donor. Tell him you love him. Choose your donor together! That way he can give his opinion as well. You don't want to date that donor. Let him know you just want to experience pregnancy. There's no shame to it. 2 witches1997
7/19/2017
Sperm donor choice is very complicated. It's not a lack of material, it's all good. The breadth of choice can be confusing. And what's amazing, every time everything is better and better. I expect you to understand what I mean. You should first express your wishes and only after you start the search. Otherwise, you will have a headache. And a lot of wasted time. 3 alexxas
7/20/2017
I bet it's much easier for the woman in a relationship to go for surrogacy than for a man to accept sperm donation. Just one of those things that aren't easily accepted. You might need to have a talk with him, explain your desire to give him a child. If you make it feel like something you are both in for he might have a change of heart. Not an easy task, nevertheless. Men are quite possessive of the women they love and the idea of you conceiving with sperm from another man could be too much to handle for him. I wish you luck, though! 4 miggy
7/21/2017
In a marriage, sperm donation is a serious thing. Infertility is hard, and mens found difficult to accept some topics when the infertility come from his side. You should talk to your husband in a calm place. Try to make him understand how are you feeling. How your body, mind and soul are feeling. If he can't, try picking him to a help center. Maybe the doctor can help you explaining him. Sperm donation has nothing to do with cheating. It's a common way to conceive a baby. I wish you the best of lucks. xx 5 emiraven1
7/23/2017
Good. Finding a sperm donor is not an easy thing. It's harder if you're married. For a man it is not easy to accept, much less overcome an infertility problem. Have you looked for other options? Adopt maybe. I understand that you have suffered a lot. It's not easy to experience all that you've been through. Talk to your husband. Make him understand everything you've missed. Of course without blaming anyone. Advise with different fertility specialists. They have many tips that could serve you both. It's not about cheating with something. This is already beyond that. First speak and heal among you, all the wounds that have left this process. And so you will find a solution. Best wishes to both of you. 6 nickalawad
7/23/2017
It's a complicated situation. It is a very, very delicate subject the sperm donor in a marriage. Much more if your husband does not accept it. The sperm donor has nothing to do with infidelity. You do not even know the donor. Before you do anything, you should talk very well with your husband. Try to make him understand what you had to go through. How painful this has been for you. He should understand. Also try to take him to a clinic where he can see with his eyes how the process is and have information from a doctor. Since you are willing to go anywhere to have your baby, I recommend Biotex. It's a wonderful fertility clinic in Ukraine. They will help you choose the best donor. You can take your husband there and know the facilities, staff and patients. I'm sure you will not be disappointed. Also, maybe even your husband will change his mind. Good luck. I hope everything works out very well. Xx 7 adelwill
7/28/2017
That is actually true. Men cannot bare the idea of raising a child that is not of his own. this might hurt his ego. 8 pattconley92
8/4/2017
Your story is sad to say the least. I am really moved. It's terrifying to know you had to go through that 8 times. It's like the worst possible nightmare ever. I am sorry for you. I think your husband has to give up trying. It's too much for you. It would be inhumane to make you go through this again! You can always let the clinic choose for you! It's pretty great like that. Much easier for you both. Also another tip would be... Don't describe the donor. You know, go the clinic, tell them you want them to choose the donor. Don't describe how you want the donor to look. Try describing how your kid looks. Blue eyes, brown hair... I don't know whatever you want. 9 toddlerlover
8/7/2017
Hey purehuman, I'm not really sure why your husband has an issue with sperm donation. Isn't that a good thing that you'll at least have a choice? Back in the day, we didn't have these privileges as science and technology weren't that advanced. So we only had the option of adoption or no baby at all. My wife and I chose adoption. And we were able to start a family soon enough. You should ask your husband if God forbid you were not in a position to produce viable eggs and had to rely on egg donors, what would he do? I'm sure his answer will be to pick an egg donor. Wouldn't that be cheating on his part then? You need to explain and make him understand that sperm donation is in no way cheating. It's much like egg donation, which is very common now. Hope he finds peace with that and both of you'll are in this together. 10 walterjohnson
8/9/2017

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