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im almost 22 i have a 4 yr old and im 8 weeks along with baby number 2. the father of baby number 2 has 3 very little kids under 4, he is 32. he is very hard, very hard on the kids. my daughter hates being here at times, and at times i do as well. im scared for all the children. i dont think i can stay here any more. he wants me to abort the baby, and i dont want to! what do i do, do i take my child and leave? 1 mommy22
4/19/2009
Wishing you all a good day. I wish everyone stays safe and sound. Coming to you, dear. I must say you are very brave to still keep up with your partner even when he is so hard. I know it is a very difficult situation, but you have to take an action real soon. You are pregnant, and, if you make it any later than just right now you will find it even more difficult to take a blunt step. No kind of abuse shall be tolerated. I reckon you file a complaint against him if he tries to hit you or your children. You must contact any of your trustworthy friends, and, plan out an escape from him. I think he is just using you to have a mother for his children and as his submissive, too. Please stay aware, and make sure your kids are safe, too. I know it is going to be hard to make a firm decision, but if he is really hurting you and your children, it is best advised that you must take your child and leave. I would also like to add, that make sure his kids are safe, too. try to contact some NGO for the help of his children, as well. I wish you a safe and happy pregnancy. Take care, and stay out of trouble. 2 aandycooper
8/16/2017
Hi, I agree with Andy. Any abuse no matter who from, should not be tolerated. I know I am not in your situation and it is hard for me to imagine what you must be going through. I also admit that with child and a baby in your belly you must feel extra nervous. This time is when you require love and support though. Your health, mental as well as physical is in direct relation to your baby's health. You child is also witnessing your abuse. From all of these perspectives, it is clear that you must leave. But then again, I realise it is easier said than done. Please think about your actual true feelings, if it helps, write them down and assess what you must do. Friends and family are perhaps to be contacted, if not then find some people through teh government who could help your situation. We don't pay taxes to tackle our own problems, there is a system in place for you, paid for by you. Don't feel shame in asking them to offer you support and safety. And lastly, keep your self-esteem intact, if you break, a lot will be lost. 3 Shree
8/18/2017
Hi dear. I know about how you are feeling now as I had suffered the same fate but you have to be strong for your upcoming baby & do not even think of abortion as it is a crime to take the life of an innocent who has not yet seen the light of this world. There are many single mothers who are very successful in the upbringing of their child, so donít ever think that you are alone. Try to be somewhere else if you are not happy with where you live now but donít take stress as it is harmful to your upcoming baby. Try to take the view of a good gynecologist. I was blessed as I got contact of a great gynecologist from Ukraine, whose tips helped me in many ways. He told me about not taking stress & have a proper diet which is also necessary for the health of the baby. So, in my opinion, stay away from any stress and try to be as relaxed as possible. If possible move elsewhere. 4 shweta118
9/6/2017
Hello! Your concern is valid in all aspects. Just do what you r heart rests at. Dont keep overthinking over it. It will only worsen the conditions. Love to kids and the one to be. 5 Ashbrown
10/12/2017

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please help give me some insight